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To want to keep DD covered up?

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Callaway22 Sat 22-Apr-17 19:34:03

We took the kids swimming today. DH decided to whip 3yo DD's swimming costume off her in the shower area so as to rinse it off before packing it away.

I asked him never to do that again and felt very uneasy about her not having clothes on. The shower area is in full view of the pool and DH felt bad once he realised my concerns?

AIBU or in this day and age, when we know where to be so many paedofiles etc, should we be keeping our little ones covered up?

Cynara Sat 22-Apr-17 19:35:04


MyOtherNameIsTaken Sat 22-Apr-17 19:35:58


Whosthemummynow Sat 22-Apr-17 19:35:59

I think you may be being a tad U

ThymeLord Sat 22-Apr-17 19:36:35

You're being ridiculous.

Callaway22 Sat 22-Apr-17 19:36:52

I should add that I suffer from quite severe anxiety so often worry about what ifs and I'm wondering if this is clouding my ordinarily sound judgement.

BuzzKillington Sat 22-Apr-17 19:37:05

Put her in a cupboard, never let her out.

You can't be too careful.

WorraLiberty Sat 22-Apr-17 19:37:45


It's a swimsuit

Not a cloak of invisibility.

Pansiesandredrosesandmarigolds Sat 22-Apr-17 19:38:05

You do sound over-anxious.

scottishdiem Sat 22-Apr-17 19:38:07

If Earth were the centre of common sense and critical thinking, then on this issue you are somewhere out past the orbit of Pluto.

Very very unreasonable.

Callaway22 Sat 22-Apr-17 19:38:31

Okay, I get the message. I didn't have a go at DH by the way, I just asked him if he could keep her costume on her in the showers from now on. Came on here because I was concerned it might be my anxiety getting the better of me. Thank you for your feedback.

Justmadeperfectflapjacks Sat 22-Apr-17 19:38:41

I would have kept my dd clothed too op.

We are entitled to our own parenting preferences. .

miwelaisjacydo Sat 22-Apr-17 19:39:02

Jeepers what a silly thing to say! YABVU

Cynara Sat 22-Apr-17 19:39:09

Yes. Your anxiety is eliminating clouding your judgement.

Gileswithachainsaw Sat 22-Apr-17 19:39:17

You do realise paedos will perv over a child whether they are naked or covered in sheets.

Meanwhile the rest of the population really aren't phased by a naked toddler getting changed.

ZilphasHatpin Sat 22-Apr-17 19:40:22

when we know where to be so many paedofiles etc, should we be keeping our little ones covered up?

The paedophiles exist whether your child is covered or not. What exactly do you think they will be doing that they wouldn't be doing if she has her costume on?

museumum Sat 22-Apr-17 19:40:50

I do this all the time with 3 yr old ds so I can wrap him snugly in his towelling robe without him getting cold. I don't see the problem at all, he certainly doesn't mind.

User2468 Sat 22-Apr-17 19:41:10

Analyse logically what harm could come to her being in a shower with her parents?

I have anxiety but have no worries about that, unless DS pees on the floor!

PeaFaceMcgee Sat 22-Apr-17 19:41:27

Yeah, if the shower area is in full view of the pool I wouldn't want my daughter's vulva exposed.

Callaway22 Sat 22-Apr-17 19:42:44

Zilphas - looking at her private parts was my concern but I appreciate everyone thinks this is not a concern and I'm being totally OTT.

youaredeluded Sat 22-Apr-17 19:42:53

I actually disagree with you OP... but our local pool has signs up saying all children must remain in their swimming suits in the shower.

Kittykatmacbill Sat 22-Apr-17 19:43:35

Nah, I feel the same as you op. Feels really odd that it's okay to a three year old naked in the shower but not anyone else.

Trifleorbust Sat 22-Apr-17 19:45:01

Meh. I get that it might seem a bit odd but she's only 3. Unless it bothered her it wouldn't bother me.

Gwenci Sat 22-Apr-17 19:46:17

I don't think you're being unreasonable OP.

Though it isn't the paedophile thing that would bother me, more the fact that I wouldn't want to take my swimming costume off in front of a pool full of people so I wouldn't do it to my DC either.

heyduggeeallday Sat 22-Apr-17 19:51:29

My ds is 2 I would never expose him like that

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