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To be upset at racial abuse directed at my two year old?

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JustAKitten Sat 22-Apr-17 13:45:20

My 20 month old is white and Indian. I'm white.

I'm quite vocal politically, and I'm very left wing. It's not everyone's cup of tea, I get that.

The other day, we received racial abuse via Facebook (I was called a race traitor and a P slur was used towards DP), which is unreasonable in itself, but then the moron decided to say something along the lines of "I feel sorry for your kid. Not one thing or the other. What a shame, poor bastard!"

This has pissed me off way more than anything said to us.

He's not even two and someone's already made a racist remark to him. AIBU to be really upset about it? My family told me to ignore it and it's okay because he doesn't understand or even know what's been said, but to me, it upsets me that to these assholes even innocent kids are considered acceptable targets.

AIBU? Not sure what I'm looking for, just a vent.

PeaFaceMcgee Sat 22-Apr-17 13:46:40

Yanbu. Race hate is a crime. Report to the police.

bingbongnoise Sat 22-Apr-17 13:47:58

Well who WAS it? Someone on your friends list? A friend of a friend? How do they know you?

The things the person said is unacceptable of course, but do you expect anyone here to say any different? confused

UppityHumpty Sat 22-Apr-17 13:48:00

Report it to fb and the police. If they're in the UK they will get charged.

JustAKitten Sat 22-Apr-17 13:48:27

We thought about reporting it to the police but figured they probably wouldn't care as it was just an asshole online

ClemDanfango Sat 22-Apr-17 13:48:31

YANBU to be angry but don't give that nasty piece of work power over you and your emotions.
Remember that what he has said speaks volumes about who he is as a person and says nothing about your son.
I say this as a Mum of two mixed children.

jammyjay Sat 22-Apr-17 13:48:57

Absolutely report it! It doesn't matter if your DS won't be aware of it, that sort of behaviour cannot be tolerated!

JustAKitten Sat 22-Apr-17 13:49:19

A random person neither of us have met but who disagrees with me politically. I have a public profile because I write posts for people to share.

Spudlet Sat 22-Apr-17 13:49:26

Of course YANBU to be upset. What a horrible thing to have to deal with. Your ds doesn't understand it of course, but you do, and of course you're the person who was the real target in all this. flowers

What a waste of oxygen the idiot on Facebook must be. Bastard.

user1487175389 Sat 22-Apr-17 13:51:11

Don't be upset. - Be fucking furious! Screenshot and straight to the police. This individual has committed a hate crime and they will take it seriously.

PeaFaceMcgee Sat 22-Apr-17 13:51:25

figured they probably wouldn't care

The police will certainly care. You could try least try. Do not allow your family to minimise this. You need to stand up for your child every single time.

Haffdonga Sat 22-Apr-17 13:52:05

That's shocking. Please do report it. sad

pushingthroughcracks Sat 22-Apr-17 13:52:33

I'm mixed heritage and you do get it, yes.

But IME people say it when there is nothing else to criticise. I know it's easier said than done but when he's older teach your son to say 'really? That's the most insulting thing you can say?' in a bored voice.


Pariswhenitdrizzles Sat 22-Apr-17 13:52:57

OP I'm so sorry flowers please report this to the police - I promise you that they will be interested and will want to follow this up.

JustAKitten Sat 22-Apr-17 13:53:58

pushing that's often DPs response to racism and what I plan on teaching DS

FishInAWetSuitAndFlippers Sat 22-Apr-17 13:55:02

Take screenshots and report to the police.

Also think about getting a profile just for your political posts with no private information or photos on it.

Politics can bring out the very worst in people and you don't want those people to have access to personal information about you.

I would also be furious if I were you op flowers

AristotlesTrousers Sat 22-Apr-17 13:56:20

You absolutely can report it as a hate crime if you want to, OP. You don't even have to do it via the police if you don't want.

originalbiglymavis Sat 22-Apr-17 13:57:14

This is exactly why I don't do Facebook or Twitter outside of work.

Full of arseholes who hide behind their keyboards and think that they can say what they like.

Screenshot and report. But protect yourself and your child on social media. There are some sick puppies out there and some people who just throw out all sorts of bike for the fun of it.

Katie Price was in the news recently for tracking down someone who posted horrible stuff about her eldest boy.

bingbongnoise Sat 22-Apr-17 13:59:03

There are some sick puppies out there and some people who just throw out all sorts of bike for the fun of it.

Was there a few typos there? Or am I trippin? confused

Wolfiefan Sat 22-Apr-17 14:01:55

The only poor bastard is any child of the despicable "human being" who sent that message.
And your family saying it is ok as he doesn't know? How is ANY racial abuse EVER ok?
I'm so sorry OP. flowers

JustAKitten Sat 22-Apr-17 14:03:06

Wolfie they were upset by the content but I think they then tried to play it off when they saw how upset I was to try and make me feel better

FeedTheSharkAndItWIllBite Sat 22-Apr-17 14:08:47

I'd be incredibly upset.

We have gotten hate for being "supposedly" Polish before and I was pretty upset (DH was furious on my and DD's behalf). But seeing as we are not even Polish it was easier to laught off, if that makes sense...

Anyhow, I do think you should report it. Plus, in the case of written abuse it's so much easier to report. I understand it's sometimes not worth it to report every arsehole, but that particular was stupid enough to do it in written form...

FeedTheSharkAndItWIllBite Sat 22-Apr-17 14:09:44

Anyhow, I don't think YABU at all!

originalbiglymavis Sat 22-Apr-17 14:09:58

Woah, my predictive text is mad today. Bile not bike. So not too mad.

originalbiglymavis Sat 22-Apr-17 14:11:14

Bile not bike! My predictive text is going wild these days.

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