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PrtyPsn Sat 22-Apr-17 08:19:35

Expecting DS1 very soon and starting to think about when he's here.
OH's parents already have grandchildren from his siblings. When their first grandchild was learning to talk, they mispronounced 'Granny' and 'Grandpa' (as young children often do) it was cute and funny at the time but the in laws encouraged it.
Now, several grandchildren later (all at an age of speaking perfectly well) they all still refer to their grandparents as these mispronunciations.
It really grates on me - I come from a child education background so I know how frustrating it is when children use alternative words for something and teaching children to mispronounce a word is a big pet hate of mine.
So, AIBU to ask them to stop this for my child? It's not a habit I want him to fall into and definitely not something that will happen with any other family members but it's clear they like it as they've done it for years.

user1471517900 Sat 22-Apr-17 08:27:52

Just correct future child if he or she says it wrong. It's fairly simple.

Or for our entertainment...... Tell them you're going NC and why.

(This really is not a big deal)

NapQueen Sat 22-Apr-17 08:30:06

You wont be teaching your dcs to mispronounce a word. They are still Granny and Grandpa. They just have family known as names which have derived from that.

So what if they are known as Gangan or Gramps or whatever. Your kids will still learn that they are grandmother and grandfather.

WilburIsSomePig Sat 22-Apr-17 08:30:21

I come from a child education background How on earth is this relevant?

I also come from a 'child education background' but let the DC's call their grandparents what they liked.

I would suggest that, in the scheme of things, this is such a non issue and you may wish to unclench and focus on the big stuff.

Trifleorbust Sat 22-Apr-17 08:31:33

Major chill needed here.

Jayneisagirlsname Sat 22-Apr-17 08:32:47

It's not going to do them any harm in the long run. Children will learn as they grow that the mispronounced name is the individual name for their own grandparent, in the same way that we all have our individual names.
It's nice to have little family in jokes and nicknames - it's part of what builds a family.

Primary school teacher here btw

EdmundCleverClogs Sat 22-Apr-17 08:33:06

Sorry but I think you are being very precious. Kids and grandparents often figure out the 'nicknames', it's a part of their unique relationship. Much of my degree was in language acquisition in children, it does zero harm. As you said, other grandchildren can now speak 'perfectly fine'.

Or for our entertainment...... Tell them you're going NC and why.


PandasRock Sat 22-Apr-17 08:33:24

It's not 'teaching to mispronounce a word ' though, is it?

It's using a nickname, as the mispronunciation has evolved over the years.

Telling a child 'mischievous' is pronounced 'mischeeeveeeous' is teaching mispronounciation. Using a cute contraction or evolved nickname is not.

My dd2 couldn't pronounce dd1's name as a toddler - she missed out the middle bit (common error for toddlers) and we ended up with a cute shortening, which got shortened even further and became dd1's nickname for years (until she asked us to use her full name, which we did/do)

Would you have this same dread if it were your parents?

Dillite2 Sat 22-Apr-17 08:34:05

I am one of those children (obviously no longer a child) and do it to this day. The one time I called my aunts Aunt Whatever they got terribly upset because they loved the nicknames that I had given them.

gentlydoesit89 Sat 22-Apr-17 08:34:18

You'll probably find once DS1 arrives that the million other things first time parents go through will push this to the bottom of the priority list.

BarneyRumbleton Sat 22-Apr-17 08:34:29

I don't understand why you want your children to call them something different to the other children in the family?
They are just affectionate nicknames. They won't stunt your child's language development.
If you come from a child ed background, you'll know all about the importance of motherese and baby talk.

Adalind Sat 22-Apr-17 08:34:45

Are the older grandchildren aware of their mispronunciation? As in, they know the proper words but are choosing to continue using the nickname?
Using the correct word to your child when you refer to them is probably the best plan, I wouldn't make it an 'issue' that requires a chat.
My parents have lots of granchilldrem, some call them something different but all the children know who everyone is talking about.

SoloDance Sat 22-Apr-17 08:35:59

It's up to you. You will come across as a bit like you have a stick up your arse. But if thays the look you are going for,then fine.

user1471521456 Sat 22-Apr-17 08:36:18

I had a Gangan and I only managed to get a degree. I always regret that my parents not teaching me to say Grandad properly meant that I wasn't doctorate material. [sad]

DancingLedge Sat 22-Apr-17 08:37:26

What are you going to do when your children mispronounce names? You can choose to correct them, but there will be a phase when they use a name and simply can't get it right yet. Chances are, like the rest of us, you will actually find this quite charming. If not, what are you going to do? Forbid your children from using words they can't pronounce?

00100001 Sat 22-Apr-17 08:38:09

Wow OP. You sound like a plonker.

PenelopeFlintstone Sat 22-Apr-17 08:39:06

I also find them nauseating, especially a neighbour's MaaaMaaaa in the most nasal, droning child's voice EVER.

user1471521456 Sat 22-Apr-17 08:39:26

You see! I can't even get smileys to post correctly. shakes fist at parents

HamletsSister Sat 22-Apr-17 08:39:32

I was the oldest grandchild and mispronounced. And then so did everyone, all other grandchildren their children, carers etc.

They both loved having an unique name. And we all knew who we were talking about in a world full of grannies and grampas.

BertrandRussell Sat 22-Apr-17 08:39:35

So you want your child to be the only one to call his grandparents something different. And by doing so, implicitly pointing out what a crap idea it is for the other grandchildren to use the family names, because of your "child education background"

I can see this going really well. But hey ho, who cares abourna few hurt feelings?

MollyCule Sat 22-Apr-17 08:39:43

Sorry, I also think YABU. My grandfather had a NN that resulted from my eldest cousin not being able to day Grandad correctly early on. He was a wonderful man and the name is special to all of us, I think it's quite sweet really. I dislike incorrect pronunciations too ('pacific' for 'specific' particularly grates) but this is totally different in my opinion.

00100001 Sat 22-Apr-17 08:39:52

My Nephew call his grandparents "Noodles" and "flops"

He still knows the correct term and family tree. He's 13 and doing just fine. Even knows to refer to them and "grandparents" when talking to other people.

Crisscrosscranky Sat 22-Apr-17 08:40:01

This is the most PFB I've heard on here in a while.


WellErrr Sat 22-Apr-17 08:41:28

So you want your child to be the only one to call his grandparents something different. And by doing so, implicitly pointing out what a crap idea it is for the other grandchildren to use the family names, because of your "child education background"

Bertrand has it.

PrtyPsn Sat 22-Apr-17 08:42:55

Ok, seems like most don't agree but don't see the need in being quite so rude... always good to know I sound like a plonker.
I wouldn't have posted if this wasn't a genuine concern for me and I get it might not be to others - it's exactly why I wanted other opinions (just hoped it would have been politer)
Yes, I would still have this concern if it was my parents.
I understand baby talk but when a child is 13 and still saying it then it's not baby talk.
Like the idea of correcting my child, slight worry it will become a battle if in laws continue the names.

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