To expect to not tidy/clean 13yo room?

[Ihaveabloodyheadache]

According to 13yo in question I'm the most terrible parent ever because she is asked to keep one room, that she uses exclusively, clean and tidy (I'm realistic, she's a teen, I don't expect military cleanliness)
According to her, and a few friends with kids similar ages, I should be doing it as part of 'parenting' - bit shocked really, I was expected to keep my room tidy and she's 13, not 3! From age 4/5 I've gradually increased her responsibilities in her room from putting her toys away up to now hoovering, dusting and changing the bed. So it's not like I've done all of a sudden, she's just suddenly come out with it, saying she thinks I'm being awful by not tidying and cleaning her room in line with my other parental duties as well as tidy the rest of the house after her as she sheds possessions like a bird does feathers

I do go in sometimes and blitz, collect clothes, rubbish, turn the mattress etc, but in general I don't expect that I need to provide a service akin to hotel housekeeping every day!

At what age did/do you expect your DC to take on the responsibility of keeping their own space tidy?

[SoloDance]

I used the shut the door on it method.

[SoloDance]

The hard paddinton stare is a MN myth

[Biffsboys]

My ds is 20 - I've been closing the door for 4 years

[gamerchick]

The hard paddinton stare is a MN myth

Can't get the technique right huh?

Would be a very brave youngling who said it was my job to clean up after them have to admit. I wouldn't be shutting the door on the mess neither.