Has anyone had a termination just because their husband really didn't want another child?

NoOneLikesACrispyTowel · 2017-04-21 21:24:41

DH is 13 years old than me in his mid to late 40's. We have two DC, youngest 6. We were really stupid and now I'm pregnant. I'm in a crucial part of my career and it was far from planned but I kinda got my head round it. DH is another matter though. He absolutely in no way wants this child. He says he doesn't think our marriage will survive it (we unfortunately had a really hard time with our other DC with life threatening illness's and medical needs - bloody bad luck basically) as it's so stressful having kids when they are small. Says he's too old and doesn't want to be going to play parks in his 50's. All 4 of us are in a really happy place finally after many years of stress and worry and now this. He's right of course. Right about everything he said. He doesn't think our relationship can handle me keeping it. I don't think our relationship will survive if I get a termination for him alone. Half of me thinks fuck it, I'll have it and raise in on my own with the other DC. The other doesn't want him to leave our current DC so maybe I should just get rid of this pregnancy and try and get over it? I feel like we're screwed either way. Wtf do I do?!

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We've agreed to take this old thread down for the OP for privacy reasons. She's grateful to everyone who responded at the time.