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AIBU not to send thank you cards

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ChipsCheeseAndBeans Fri 21-Apr-17 16:21:52

My DS has had a lot of chocolate, gifts and money from various friends / family / neighbours for Easter. I have thanked the giver in person but my DH thinks it would be rude not to send a thank you card as well. I think it is a waste of time and money. What do you think?

NoYouDontKnowItAll Fri 21-Apr-17 16:23:46

As you've already thanked them in person it's probably unnecessary to send a card or note as well

MrsELM21 Fri 21-Apr-17 16:23:46

It would be nice if you did but not absolutely necessary I'd say

ILoveAGoodBrusselSprout Fri 21-Apr-17 16:23:51

I'm with yourDH. It's seen as old fashioned by many people now but I always ensure DCs send hand written thank you notes for gifts. In my opinion, it's rude not to.

dementedpixie Fri 21-Apr-17 16:24:30

I wouldn't either if you have given verbal thanks already

LordRothermereBlackshirtCunt Fri 21-Apr-17 16:25:26

If your DH really feels strongly about this, he can send them, can't he?

redexpat Fri 21-Apr-17 16:25:58

If dh thinks it would be rude not to then he can write them.

LiarLawyer Fri 21-Apr-17 16:26:36

Don't bother if you already thanked them in person. There's this rampant thank you note culture around here.

FeelingSmurfy Fri 21-Apr-17 16:27:34

As long as they have all been thanked then i think it's fine, whether it's verbally/text/card/Facebook message

FeelingSmurfy Fri 21-Apr-17 16:27:58

If he wants to send them though then let him get on with it

Moanyoldcow Fri 21-Apr-17 16:29:22

I don't care about receiving thank you cards at all. If I get one it's nice, of course, but I'm not one of those waiting for them or judging the recipient for not sending them.

MiltopMighty Fri 21-Apr-17 16:31:41

I'm with brusselsprout hand written thank you notes for all gifts. We do it no matter what.

And no, not emails, (I'm looking at you, middle DS)

NennyNooNoo Fri 21-Apr-17 16:50:35

I think it would be appreciated but not absolutely necessary if you've already thanked them. A handmade card delivered to the neighbours costs nothing except for 15 minutes of his time (tops).

Levatrice Fri 21-Apr-17 16:54:45

i would for if it was an obviously expensive egg, or if someone gave £10/15 cash or similar, probably not just for a £2 cadburys egg etc but can understand why people dont; its the cost of stamps i think is why its not so popular these days

Ladydepp Fri 21-Apr-17 16:56:32

Let your DH do it, his enthusiasm will soon wane.

EineKleine Fri 21-Apr-17 17:28:29

Offer to post them once DH has written them.

FrancisCrawford Fri 21-Apr-17 17:31:08

A written thank you is only ever required when you have not thanked the giver in person

MovingOnUpMovingOnOut Fri 21-Apr-17 17:32:23

No need for a card when thanked in person.

However if your dh feels strongly there's nothing to stop him writing thank you cards.

Bet he expects you to do it though.

AlternativeTentacle Fri 21-Apr-17 17:33:37

DH thinks it would be rude not to send a thank you card as well.

'That is fine husband. Let me know when you have finished them.'

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