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GastonsWife Fri 21-Apr-17 08:19:28

Sorry if this is super long! I haven't ever complained in my life but this has really upset me.
I am 39 weeks pregnant with our first baby. I own my own house and we have been together a long time and both have stable careers. Baby was an unexpected surprise but very much wanted.
At my booking in appointment I told my midwife about my anxiety and she told me she would get in touch with the mental health midwife. I never heard anything about this and by my next appointment my anxiety has worsened quite a bit to the point where it was affecting most aspects of my life. Once again I was told I would be referred.
In December I was told I would have an emergency referral but this could be held up because of Christmas. Now we are the other side of easter and despite being told at every appointment I have been referred I have no evidence to prove that any of this has happened. This pregnancy has been a nightmare for me because of my mental health which I feel hasn't been taken seriously. I have tried chasing it up with my GP but as my practise doesn't give you a regular docotor I think I have just been lost in the mix.
Is it worth complaining about how I was told something would happen but it never has or will it be a waste of my time?

MrsExpo Fri 21-Apr-17 08:29:07

Who would you complain to? Has anyone told you (or have you asked) what waiting times are for referrals? I'd have another word with your midwife and ask how much longer you have to wait.

befuddledgardener Fri 21-Apr-17 08:31:28

Yes you could complain to the surgery practice manager about the timescale. Keep it factual. How many times you've discussed support and how it hasn't happened.

StillLostDaddy Fri 21-Apr-17 08:31:53

MrsExpo The OP is 39 weeks! She will only have a Midwife for a few more weeks (can't remember at what age baby is when they move out over to a Health Visitor). The OP needed this MH M/W during her pregnancy, not 1 week before due date!!

CatTheMouse Fri 21-Apr-17 08:32:30

Definitely complain. I'm 33 weeks pregnant currently. Last May I had a termination at almost 10 weeks due to extreme perinatal depression. It hit so quickly that no drug could touch it before it consumed me and no mental health referral was offered. I have been closely monitored this time but have needed no active involvement. The fact that you repeatedly flagged it should have been enough to get someone to act, but in truth you should have never have to ask repeatedly. Please do say something so that hopefully changes might be made in future. I hope all goes well for you in the future.

kissmethere Fri 21-Apr-17 08:38:12

Yes complain to your GP or midwife. Your pregnancy is nearly over and I'm sure the waiting has added to your anxiety. You've been overlooked somehow. Waiting for a referral patiently sometimes goes nowhere. Call someone today, I'd start with either GP or midwife.

kingfisherblue33 Fri 21-Apr-17 08:52:08

There is a mental health midwife? Wow.

I'd call your regular midwife today. Give the dates you asked about MH support and ask when it will be available. Escalate to the practice manager if she can't give you a date.

Have you done anything to help your anxiety yourself?

2014newme Fri 21-Apr-17 08:54:52

I'd be focusing on support available for pnd. You will find health visitors are really helpful with that.
It's bad that there is no help available for you in pregnancy 💐

Crumbs1 Fri 21-Apr-17 08:58:16

I'd say well done you've nearly got through your pregnancy without specialist input and using your own internal resources- shows you're building resilience.
Definitely ask re support post baby when life sometimes gets tougher.

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