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To not want a ton of childhood photos of my DH?

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Dixie2016 Thu 20-Apr-17 20:30:08

Pretty much every time I see MIL lately she has another set of childhood photos of my DH to give me. I feigned interest the first time but am finding it increasingly hard!
I don't have that much interest in them beyond looking at them when she hands them over. She insists I keep them.

DH isn't the sentimental type and only gives them a quick glance himself. I can't work out why she thinks I want them. A couple maybe but I have a drawer full now and they keep on coming. I feel like telling her that since he is her child and not mine she should want to keep them herself.

So as not to drip feed our marriage isn't exactly wonderful ( MIL well aware of this) and so the 'D' in front of H has very little cause for use. I don't know if things were better than I would be hugely enthralled by photographs of an 11 year old boy standing in front of a car, or a door or some other random place.

AIBU?

Dixie2016 Thu 20-Apr-17 20:31:46

Also to add that I think she somehow sees it as my job to keep them to show our DC in years to come. I think DH can do this himself if he thinks it important?

Instasista Thu 20-Apr-17 20:33:00

Nope! Yanbu my mil does this along with giving me all his school work schoool reports etc... just why

WateryTart Thu 20-Apr-17 20:34:04

Just put them in a drawer and forget them. No point in making a fuss about nothing.

kateclarke Thu 20-Apr-17 20:34:10

I would just give them to him and let him deal with them. Maybe keep a couple of good ones for the kids.

Violetcharlotte Thu 20-Apr-17 20:36:37

I love old family photos, but appreciate not everyone does. You may find your children are really interested in them, especially as they get older. I love seeing photos of my parents and late grandparents, it's my family history.

elQuintoConyo Thu 20-Apr-17 20:37:39

Stick them in a box marked 'mad frogs' and put it under the bed/in H's side of the wardrobe/in garage.

They belong to your husband, he can faff around with them.

WallisFrizz Thu 20-Apr-17 20:39:38

She probably wants a clear out and is trying to make sure they are passed on/kept safely. She's hardly going to throw them away and definitely nobody else will want them.

Box them up and put them in the loft/garage/spare room/recycling bin.

Dixie2016 Thu 20-Apr-17 20:44:56

I love old family photos of my family. Just not so bothered about other people's.

Fragglez Thu 20-Apr-17 20:45:30

My MIL has been doing this since DD was born (5m). It started with his hosp bracelet. Last time we went up and she tried to give us another one! And a luggage tag type thing with his birth details on it (wt/length/apgar etc) so i could 'compare' with DD's!?

Luckily DP stepped on and told her to hang on to it and keep it safe as we 'might be thinking about moving house' and wouldn't want to lose it.

She also asked what SVD stood for on delivery type. Never thought i would say vaginal to my MIL over a cup of tea.

Anyway - sorry about that! YANBU.

Dixie2016 Thu 20-Apr-17 20:47:49

Bizarre. Do you think it's because we are women and so we are supposed to be the ones to keep hold of all of this stuff?
I wonder if any men get given stuff from their wives childhoods and are expected to hold them dear?

ChaiTeaTaiChi Thu 20-Apr-17 20:48:43

I love old family photos of my family. Just not so bothered about other people's

Don't you think your children might feel the same?

And if you don't see your husband as your family, I think your marriage is a LOT less than wonderful.

histinyhandsarefrozen Thu 20-Apr-17 20:50:33

I love all that. I'd be delighted!

Dixie2016 Thu 20-Apr-17 20:52:06

Yes I'm sure my children may feel the same, but it's DH's job to keep hold of this stuff for them and not mine?

Floggingmolly Thu 20-Apr-17 20:56:49

I'd love it too.

LadyGlitterSparklesSeriously Thu 20-Apr-17 20:57:41

Ahh but see, you're his mum now, and as such you are the gatekeeper of boring childhood photographs grin

Buy her a photo album embossed with her name.

trixymalixy Thu 20-Apr-17 20:58:54

Surely your DH is your family? hmm

I love old family photos.

AntiGrinch Thu 20-Apr-17 21:00:50

I think your dcs might like them. I love ancient photos of ancestors.
Put them in the loft. Or get your H to put them in the loft.

I can't bear this MIL-foisting-of-things though. I am separated from my ex which has slightly stemmed the flow but my dcs' birthdays are occasions of naff bulky tat.

Fragglez Thu 20-Apr-17 21:02:08

In the case of my MIL i think it's a combo of me being female, and therefore in charge of emotional / sentimental things (even though dp is much more interested in them) and her being a serial 'giver'. She goes on holiday repeatedly to the same places and always buys 'i love Ireland' t shirts and bags with names of tourist attractions on for us... I find it really odd.

glueandstick Thu 20-Apr-17 21:02:47

He's her child. She's probably proud and enjoying reliving memories. Bung in a box in the loft.

We'll be older ladies one day and probably revisit the past with great joy.

Asmoto Thu 20-Apr-17 21:05:31

I like seeing childhood photos of my husband and his family but if you don't, YANBU at all - everyone is different - shove them in a box in the attic for posterity's sake and then if your DC are interested in later years, they're available, but you can otherwise forget about them.

phoenix1973 Thu 20-Apr-17 21:05:35

I just put them in a box. It's interesting to see the likeness between Dh and DD.

Floggingmolly Thu 20-Apr-17 21:08:05

Your kids will love them one day. Your DH (and MIL, come to that) are every bit as much their family as you are. confused

gingercat02 Thu 20-Apr-17 21:11:25

You DH can at least choose to keep them or not. My MIL has binned her entire life. She has about 20 photos of 78 years of life, more than 50 years of marriage, 2 DS and 3 GDC. I'm sad that we and their grandchildren won't have more physical stuff to remember them by (she has nothing else left! )

MissAustenTatious Thu 20-Apr-17 21:14:01

There are fewer than 20 photos of my DH between the ages of 0 and 24 (when I met him) in existence in total.
I would love to have piles of photos to look at and compare with our DC as they grow up.
Quit moaning and put them in a box in the loft clearly labelled for when his children start to take an interest.

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