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Why does my wee smell like beef?

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pinkflamingo12 · 20/04/2017 18:55

I wasn't really sure whether to post on here or health, so i'm sorry if this is the wrong topic...

Basically, myself and DH (of 5 years) have been going through a rough patch for the last 6 months or so. About 4 ish months ago the arguing got particularly bad and we started to call each other out about the tiniest things leading to some quite explosive rows. This led me to move out and stay with my mother for a while, which was less than enjoyable but i don't want to get into that.

i've now moved back into our house as we have decided to give our relationship another go. We've started going on date nights twice a week, which i'm definitely enjoying as it's nice to just relax with him again. However, i'm seriously struggling to trust him. When we were separated there was a period of maybe 3 or 4 weeks where we didn't talk at all. Meaning i didn't know where he was or what he was doing during that time.

I can't help but have this nagging feeling that he has cheated on me.

This feeling is made all the worse by the fact that my wee smells like beef. Last week we went on a date night to a lovely little italian in town and we got a little drunk and ended up having sex for the first time in months (we stopped doing it before as we started arguing more and more neither of us felt like it). It was lovely to reconnect but now, when i go to the toilet my wee smells distinctly of beef.

I think he has given me an STI - which he clearly caught from someone when we were separated. I can't imagine any other explanation as to why my wee would smell like this. My personal hygiene routine hasn't changed. The only thing that has changed is that i've have sex with DH.

Please tell me if i'm being silly about this. It's driving me insane.

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TheDogsEatingCaptainAmerica · 20/04/2017 18:56

Does anything hurt or itch?

thecolonelbumminganugget · 20/04/2017 19:01

Drinking 'proper' ground coffee makes my wee smell like beef.

I made up a little song about it 'There's so much fun in coffee-wee' (to the tune of the toffefee (sp?) jingle)

665TheNeighbourOfTheBeast · 20/04/2017 19:02

Chlamydia

Yellowbird54321 · 20/04/2017 19:03

Bloody hell OP for you and all that, but could you not have put a trigger warning or something in the title - I'm just about to have beef pie for me tea!

HerBluebiro · 20/04/2017 19:04

Get a test done. Easy to do in most areas. Find out. And even better get him tested too.

Then you can relax again

TheRealPooTroll · 20/04/2017 19:04

I don't think an st would effect wee smell. Maybe a urine infection? Or something you've eaten. Asparagus or similar makes my wee smell odd.

helpmesusan · 20/04/2017 19:07

I' m sorry I don't have anything helpful to say but I'm sorry you are having problems, glad you are trying to sort them out, and I really hope this is not am STI!

mygorgeousmilo · 20/04/2017 19:09

The only solution here is to get tested ASAP.

pinkflamingo12 · 20/04/2017 19:10

I tried to question him about it the other night but he became all defensive and hostile. i'm 99% sure he's cheated on me. What else would he be doing when not talking to me?

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justwait · 20/04/2017 19:11

I'm sure I've had strong smelling wee in the past despite being happily married!! It will be something you've eaten.

WinterRose92 · 20/04/2017 19:11

Sometimes certain things I eat or drink can make my wee smell weird! But if you are worried I would go get yourself checked out and him. I hope things work out well

Screwinthetuna · 20/04/2017 19:11

More like uti? Asparagus makes my wee smell like pure fart and sugarpuffs, too!

XiCi · 20/04/2017 19:11

It's probably you're mind in overdrive because you think he has cheated on you. The only way to be sure though is to get tested.

chastenedButStillSmiling · 20/04/2017 19:14

it sounds like two different issues to me.

You can get some medical checks to make sure it isn't an STD, but even if you get the all-clear, it sounds to me like you've got some trust issues with your OH???

Littlecaf · 20/04/2017 19:17

Are you my DP? He swears his wee smells of beef when he's ill.

MrsTwix · 20/04/2017 19:17

I think it's more likely a UTI.

HermioneJeanGranger · 20/04/2017 19:18

If I don't have enough to drink, my wee smells strong. It sounds like you don't trust your DH and are searching for proof. I don't think you'd notice evidence of an STI that quickly anyway

MunchMunch · 20/04/2017 19:18

Could it not just be because you've started having sex with him again after a long while so you can detect any changes in smells etc?

If I eat fish from the chippy the next day my wee absolutely stinks of fish so I very rarely eat it now. So maybe something you've ate or as others suggest a urine infection?

pinkflamingo12 · 20/04/2017 19:19

He didn't talk to me for almost 4 weeks, any other person would have trust issues too if that happened. I mean, what was he doing? Except sleeping around...

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LemonsAndLollies · 20/04/2017 19:20

Every time I've had meat-smelling wee (ugh, sorry) it's been caused by a water infection. I'd think that was most likely but a visit to the GUM clinic couldn't hurt.

MunchMunch · 20/04/2017 19:21

Also, did you split up or did you just move out to give you both some space?

Is he on the same page as you regarding this as well, he might have thought you'd broken up and had sex with someone else but didn't realise he'd actually cheated on you so now feels defensive about it.

PeppaPigTastesLikeBacon · 20/04/2017 19:22

Op, did you cheat on your DP in the 3 weeks you wasn't talking to him? What else would you be doing when not talking to him?

We can't tell you if you have an STI by the smell of your wee. A trip to the drs can though. HTH

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ineedamoreadultieradult · 20/04/2017 19:22

Your lack of trust in your partner is entirely unrelated to your wee smelling of beef. Deal with the two issues seperately or you will come across a bit unhinged of your proof of him cheating is him not talking to you and beefy wee.

SaltySalt · 20/04/2017 19:24

Mine smells that way I'm dehydrated it could just be that. Either way get an STI test

pinkflamingo12 · 20/04/2017 19:25

I've never experienced this before. We've gone through many different stages throughout our marriage. Often not having sex for months on end because i don't feel like we should if we are arguing. My wee has never once smelt like beef after reconnecting with him, no matter how long it had been.

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