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WIBU to wear my original dress to my registry office wedding

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ScentedCandle123 Wed 19-Apr-17 08:51:20

A while ago I started a thread with regards to my fiancé's relationship with his parents following his mother's death. This is my thread.

https://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2881126-Advice-needed-about-bereavement-and-family-fall-out?pg=7&order=

Following the thread my fiancé and I had a chat and he told the reason things were so strained was that as his dad was abusive towards his mother which culminated in his
mother running away one night leaving him and his sister with his dad. She came back after a couple of months and things carried on as normal. Basically their relationship has never recovered.

He did end up going to the funeral but wanted to go in his own, he sat at the back
and his father ignored him the whole
time. But it was done and now he wants to move on.

Anyway when I read some of the responses to my original thread I realised that me trying to include his mother in the plans
was wrong. I really thought that this was the best thing at the time, but I see that this could have been perceived as insensitive and thoughtless as some people pointed out. I couldn't stop thinking about this and
last week we cancelled the wedding. We are going to get married with just the two of us there in a registry office. We've paid my mum back the deposit and can't really
afford to buy new stuff for the wedding. It was too late to cancel my dress. So yesterday I picked it up. It's a typical strapless, corset back dress. The thing is is it too much for a registry office wedding, will I look silly?

ScentedCandle123 Wed 19-Apr-17 08:53:11

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2881126-Advice-needed-about-bereavement-and-family-fall-out

Sorry link fail

livefornaps Wed 19-Apr-17 08:53:15

No - sounds gorgeous!!! Wear it and then go for a walk, enjoying all the admiring glances. Why waste it?

44PumpLane Wed 19-Apr-17 08:54:06

Definitely not- loads of people wear the big fancy wedding dress to a registry office- it is your wedding after all smile

Foxsox Wed 19-Apr-17 08:54:37

I'm sorry things have been hard for you all.

I would wear the dress. It's your day and you like it wear it. You've said there's no money to fund extra things so why waste something you already have.

I Hope the day goes well for you both.

BastardGoDarkly Wed 19-Apr-17 08:56:34

Of course wear it! The registry office we got married in was really lovely, and although I didn't have a traditional dress,a few of our friends have done the whole shebang there, and didn't look at all silly!

Hope you have a lovely wedding flowers

KC225 Wed 19-Apr-17 08:56:55

Wear the dress, it sounds lovely

TestingTestingWonTooFree Wed 19-Apr-17 08:59:24

It's the dress you liked best, wear it with pride. You can't be over dressed for your own wedding, no matter how low key it is.

lazyarse123 Wed 19-Apr-17 09:01:37

Wear the dress, we've just been to a register office wedding and the bride wore a traditional dress. She looked beautiful and not out of place at all, as you will too. Enjoy your day.

eatingtomuch Wed 19-Apr-17 09:05:11

Wear the dress. I have been to a couple of registry office weddings where traditional wedding dresses have been worn. Both looked great x

LagunaBubbles Wed 19-Apr-17 09:06:59

It's your wedding, wear your dress!

Gingerbreadmam Wed 19-Apr-17 09:09:02

no definitely not. ive been to mostly registry office do's and they all wear the regular bride dresses. good luck.

BalloonSlayer Wed 19-Apr-17 09:20:47

Oh Gosh yes wear it!

People wear "traditional bridal" dresses to register offices all the time!

But the most important thing is that this is the dress you chose to get married in, the one you want to get married in. You must wear it !

nothercupoftea Wed 19-Apr-17 09:21:09

It's your wedding, wear what you want!

There's nothing remotely wrong with a bride wearing a wedding dress on her wedding day, registry office or castle.

ScentedCandle123 Wed 19-Apr-17 09:21:21

Thank you for all the support! The whole thing has been awful from start to finish, my family are understandably upset by the way we've chosen to do it and it's not the way I would have wanted it. I just feel that this is one way I could hang on to the original plans.

LaContessaDiPlump Wed 19-Apr-17 09:21:34

I wore a big fancy dress to my registry office 'do - go for it!

MrsTwix Wed 19-Apr-17 09:21:41

No reason not to wear it, lots of people have registry office weddings if they aren't religious and it isn't any less your big day.

NeedsAsockamnesty Wed 19-Apr-17 09:23:20

I have an office that overlooks a registry office,

(None science figure) but about 90% of the people I see getting married are wearing full on wedding frocks it's luffly

sueelleker Wed 19-Apr-17 09:25:53

My niece got married in a registry office, and not only did she wear a wedding dress, her 3 sisters were bridesmaids and wore fancy dresses as well.

Semaphorically Wed 19-Apr-17 09:27:35

Oh yes, wear it! You aren't sneaking your marriage in shamefully, you're making it a hugely personal and special event with just you and your partner to keep it separated from recent problems. Of course you should dress the part smile

WaitrosePigeon Wed 19-Apr-17 09:28:59

Wear it lady!

MrsJayy Wed 19-Apr-17 09:33:04

Sounds so upsetting for your fella and you flowers wearcyour dress you have bought it for your wedding, I wore a proper wedding dress tova registry office tonnes of women do

sonjadog Wed 19-Apr-17 09:33:14

Definitely wear it and have a day just to celebrate the two of you. You both deserve it.

EC22 Wed 19-Apr-17 09:35:03

No brainier, of course you wear your wedding dress!

starsorwater Wed 19-Apr-17 09:44:38

Wear it, and have a gorgeous day. We got married like that, 6 people there in total, an awful lot of past to get around.
Thirty one years and counting now.

Take photos! (We forgot).

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