about changing a nappy on a cafe table?

(310 Posts)
Catsize Tue 18-Apr-17 19:07:03

So, I usually grab something quick and cheap for lunch but decided to treat myself to a nice baked spud in an art gallery cafe.

Half way through said spud, and perusing MN, I looked up to see that the people on the table nearby were changing a baby's nappy on the table where they'd just eaten.

My face must have been a bit of a picture because one of the women looked at me as if to say 'what?'. Feeling I had to justify myself, I said 'it's just that it's a bit grim changing a baby's nappy on a cafe table'.

The woman doing the changing asked if I was a mum. Instead of saying 'what difference would that make?', I said I had two children. She said she didn't realise I was watching(?). I said it was more of a hygiene thing, but yes, it had put me off my lunch somewhat.

She replied that it was 'only a bit of wee'.

So, was I being unreasonable hygiene thing and it is 'only a bit of wee', or is this utterly grim?

For clarity, this was in an area out of sight of the staff and I was the only other customer in that area.

The loos were ten paces away, full changing facilities and pristine.

Rainatnight Tue 18-Apr-17 19:08:01

Grim. I've seen this too and can't bear it.

KikiDeliversCakes Tue 18-Apr-17 19:08:20

Grim. YANBU.

SunshineBelle Tue 18-Apr-17 19:09:22

I run a restaurant and this happens more often that you might think (I always say something)

YANBU. It's disgusting, unhygienic and puts people off their food. I just don't get why people think this is okay angry

MidnightAura Tue 18-Apr-17 19:09:39

That's disgusting!! Grim, Grim and Grim!

Pinkheart5915 Tue 18-Apr-17 19:09:49

No just no! I do wonder what is wrong with people sometimes, Just lazy

Lilyoftheforest Tue 18-Apr-17 19:10:38

Gross and nasty. And the person running the cafe should have put a stop to it.!

sonyaya Tue 18-Apr-17 19:11:03

She's absolutely vile, partly for changing the nappy on the table but mainly for the "are you a mum" aka the belittling of childless women, as though they have less right to not want pissy nappies being thrown about while they're eating.

YANBU at all.

CigarsofthePharoahs Tue 18-Apr-17 19:11:07

Eugh.
That's all I have to say!

ThreeLeggedHaggis Tue 18-Apr-17 19:12:03

Absolutely disgusting.

Didn't the staff do anything?? I'd tell a customer to leave immediately if they did that in my café.

ThreeLeggedHaggis Tue 18-Apr-17 19:12:31

For clarity, this was in an area out of sight of the staff

This is why I should read the OP carefully before posting. grin

Rabidu Tue 18-Apr-17 19:13:29

That's pretty grim.
Although I was having a picnic yesterday and baby was screaming with a full nappy an wouldn't sit still so I changed his nappy on the picnic blanket, wiped my hands with a wet wipe and carried on eating.
I didn't consider that other people eating could see me an might b put off their food. It just needed to be done.

Heirhelp Tue 18-Apr-17 19:14:20

I am a Mum, relevant because the women it in the situation asked, IMO it is digusting and I would never do this in cafe.

FumBluff1 Tue 18-Apr-17 19:15:03

Grim. Surely she could have found a more private spot!

dementedma Tue 18-Apr-17 19:15:22

Gross,disgusting and lazy!

EpoxyResin Tue 18-Apr-17 19:15:22

I don't think it's grim or vile or anything like that, but I do think it's extremely impolite.

gluteustothemaximus Tue 18-Apr-17 19:15:32

Grim grim grim. Takes seconds to go to the baby change area provided.

RochelleGoyle Tue 18-Apr-17 19:16:38

YANBU, that's totally unacceptable.

LakieLady Tue 18-Apr-17 19:16:39

YANBU!

She's gross, but not quite as gross as the woman who changed a shitty nappy in a pub where people were eating Sunday lunch and then left the shitty nappy on a chair for the rest of the time we were there.

I'd have said something to the staff, but they were rushed off their feet and we had somewhere to be, so weren't around much longer (thankfully).

KC225 Tue 18-Apr-17 19:17:03

That is rank. I had twins, I never once changed a baby in such a place. Nor in people's living rooms, nor in front of guests. There is no excuse.

SquedgieBeckenheim Tue 18-Apr-17 19:18:31

Yup, grim. I would never do that!

originalbiglymavis Tue 18-Apr-17 19:18:45

I saw a mum doing that in the m&s cafe. She was waaay across the room and I could tell it wasn't 'just wee'. Had me gagging on my scone (and mumsnetting like mad).

kel1493 Tue 18-Apr-17 19:18:58

I would never do it and I think it's awful. Though I have seen it done

seven201 Tue 18-Apr-17 19:19:25

I don't think it would bother me if she'd done it on the chair/bench, but it is an odd choice to do it in a table when there are good changing facilities nearby.

MrsKoala Tue 18-Apr-17 19:19:34

Wouldn't bother me. I doubt a wee nappy would touch the surface of the table and contaminate things and they get wiped between customers or i would wipe it with a wet wipe if i did it.

I have changed a wet nappy on my lap in a cafe once and at the last MN meet up i changed my baby's nappy on the pub table. We were in a function room tho so only the MNers could see and they assured me they wouldn't start a thread about me!

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