I cant Bear Mil any longer I have had enough.
Over the years we have had ups and downs and mostly downs, I cant cope with her any more. My DM has just died a few weeks ago, I was only sibling there at her side supporting her through it, I am also one left with the estate to tie up etc.
Not one word from MIl to say " sorry to hear about your DM" or anything.
She only asked about the estate and how I am getting on with that because it may be a window for them to have the DC while we tackle other stuff, its a long way way away. Not a card, flowers or simple words.
She sat in my home over Easter and pretty much ignored me and all talk of DM.
We already had a period of not talking to fil or mil a few years ago when the constant pushing for hte dc got out of hand.
FIl seems better now - but Mil has continued to make digs at us - eg done nothing to our house like our neighbours therefore our house wont be going up in value like theirs, constant black cloud of doom, regards us as looser, will cry over the sadness that are dc are being brought up in a house that not to her specification - her home is a show home which you can barely breathe in etc.
She has crossed boundaries over potty training etc and when DC has been ill, and she has been due to collect they wont ask - " how is dc - are they well enough to come" its a steam roller over us - " what time shall we collect" ignoring all emails about dc condition.
But they dont do - child care. They see younger DC about on average once every two /three weeks and older less as she doesn't want to go - she is not keen on GM, and having seen her around GM, GM brings out the worst in her, I have never seen her so bad tempered.
Fil is a tank, whose job it is - to get the GC over to the house to keep MIL happy, we are pushed and pushed and pushed.
I want professional help on how to deal with her - but which type of Therapist is going to be the one. I have tried to get one before - but its all depression based it seems.
Ideally I want someone to help me detach from how Mil makes me feel...Ie when I am in her presence which I am likely to be for a good few years to come, I want to be more detached and let her countenance affect me less. I am by nature always aware of the moods of people in a room and it affects me, and seeing as she is always this negative cloud who hates us - I want to be able to let it run off me like water off ducks back.
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Had Enough Cant tolerate MIL Any Longer I need Proffesional help but which type
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CantCopeWithMil · 18/04/2017 09:24
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