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AIBU to make him see the doctor

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Steggers123 Tue 18-Apr-17 07:34:57

My husband is 47, he has been taking medication for high blood pressure since his late twenties. His father had a major heart attack at 39 and two of his uncles did not make it past their fifties (fatal cardiac arrest in both cases). He has just told me that during the night he had chest pain lasting for about an hour which was so severe he thought he was having a heart attack. It passed and he is in no pain now, but I think he should go and get himself checked out by the doctor. Am I being hysterical?

Nan0second Tue 18-Apr-17 07:41:36

He needs to see a doctor.

Rosa Tue 18-Apr-17 07:42:18

Of course he should... Even if it did not run in the family it should get checked out.

SquatBetty Tue 18-Apr-17 07:42:51

Not in the slightest bit hysterical - he must see a doctor ASAP.

Steggers123 Tue 18-Apr-17 07:52:57

He's adamant he's going into work (he has an important meeting) and might go to the walk in centre this evening. I am tearing my hair out here!

LouKout Tue 18-Apr-17 07:54:19

He maybe WAS having a heart attack. So sorry he is being so foolhardy

Steggers123 Tue 18-Apr-17 08:04:30

Lou, I told him exactly that, and he has even conceded it may be possible he was actually having a heart attack, but the meeting is too important to miss...I despair.

Steggers123 Tue 18-Apr-17 08:32:01

He's just told me when he had the pain he was sweating profusely, over the past few weeks he's had intermittent swelling in his hands which I told him at the time could be a sign of issues with his heart. What a complete an utter knob, he's promised to come home straight after his meeting.

Iwant2move Tue 18-Apr-17 08:43:34

Please try to persuade him to be seen this morning. Last year the woman sat opposite me in our GP's waiting room was having a heart attack. It was very peaceful. She just looked nervous.

I was shocked by how calm she was. It would be so easy to ignore and assume it was something less serious.

ShowMePotatoSalad Tue 18-Apr-17 08:48:04

You're not hysterical - he needs to see a Dr. Sadly you can't make him go but obviously you can do your very best to convince him.

TheClaws Tue 18-Apr-17 08:55:12

Yes, he does need to see a doctor. My DH thought he might 'just sleep it off', but in fact he was having a massive heart attack. If he hadn't been mercilessly nagged into calling the ambulance, he wouldn't be here today. DH is in his mid forties. Just make sure he is checked over.

Steggers123 Tue 18-Apr-17 08:56:08

He's gone to work, I'm so frustrated with him. I'm hoping he had a really bad case of indigestion, but with his family history and the swollen hands I can't believe he's being so flippant. Today is going to be a long day.

Whitegrenache Tue 18-Apr-17 08:58:23

I work in cardiology...:this is a life threatening situation and he needs to go to A and E now or phone an ambulance. Tell him to take 375mg of aspirin immediately

Whitegrenache Tue 18-Apr-17 08:59:22

325mg aspirin

Steggers123 Tue 18-Apr-17 09:00:59

White, he's gone to work! He won't listen to reason, the pain and sweating subsided after an hour and he hasn't had any since so he thinks he's ok to wait.

EC22 Tue 18-Apr-17 09:01:11

I'd think it a good idea he go get his bloods checked and a CTG. I'd ask that if it happens again he go to a&e straight away x

Chillyegg Tue 18-Apr-17 09:05:15

I think id wade in hear and rotally ne a massive controlling arse and call his boss/manager / hr and say you think you stupid husband is probably having a heart attack explain the situation hopefully they walk him out the building. To a taxi to the hospital.

Mrscog Tue 18-Apr-17 09:10:07

What an arse - do you have DC? It sounds like he had a heart attack in the night. I would call 111 on his behalf and get them to send an ambulance to his work!

Steggers123 Tue 18-Apr-17 09:17:45

Chilly, he is the boss unfortunately.

Mrscog, we have three sons, so he's being a total arse not taking this seriously. He's in his meeting now, so I just have to wait.

Mrscog Tue 18-Apr-17 09:20:43

I really hope he's ok, sorry you have to go through such a morning of worry flowers

trulybadlydeeply Tue 18-Apr-17 09:24:13

How long is the meeting likely to be? He really does need medical attention ASAP.

DartmoorDoughnut Tue 18-Apr-17 09:24:50

Hope he's ok and at the hospital/doctors sharpish

mrsgumpy Tue 18-Apr-17 09:26:25

Of course he needs to see the doctor, asap. This sounds like a cause for intervention. I would be handing him an ultimatum.

Giddyaunt18 Tue 18-Apr-17 09:27:08

Really need stop see someone ASAP. As you know, the history, pain, sweating, swelling are all red flags! Really hope he gets seen quickly. Good luck.

Giddyaunt18 Tue 18-Apr-17 09:28:54

Forget coming home after the meeting, tell him you'll meet him at A&E.

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