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AIBU?

Not sure how this should be dealt with

53 replies

homebytheriver · 17/04/2017 20:24

A teenage girl has been asking to come in and saying that she lived in this house with her mum who has since died. Feel so sorry for her but AIBU to not be totally comfortable?

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sonlypuppyfat · 17/04/2017 20:26

I like a drive past the house I grew up in, but I wouldn't want to go in

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SmileEachDay · 17/04/2017 20:27

Don't let her in, obvs.

Is she upset?

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homebytheriver · 17/04/2017 20:29

Doesn't seem to be?

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SmileEachDay · 17/04/2017 20:29

How old - 13? 19?

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TeaBelle · 17/04/2017 20:30

Maybe offer to take some specific pictures for her if she would like?

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CookieLady · 17/04/2017 20:31

Don't let her in.

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muckypup73 · 17/04/2017 20:32

It depends how old she is and if she is genuine.

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mineofuselessinformation · 17/04/2017 20:34

Don't let her in, but do ask if there's anyone you can ring for her.

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SmileEachDay · 17/04/2017 20:34

If she's a young teen I'd offer to call whoever looks after her at home. If she's an adult I would say sorry, you don't let strangers into your house.

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myoriginal3 · 17/04/2017 20:35

Does she seems upset?

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myoriginal3 · 17/04/2017 20:36

Doh. You already answered my q

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myoriginal3 · 17/04/2017 20:37

Ask her why?

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Beeziekn33ze · 17/04/2017 20:38

Could be genuine or so many kinds of a scam. Could what she said be true?
Anyway don't open the door to her again, not worth the risk in my opinion.

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Floggingmolly · 17/04/2017 20:38

How long have you lived there?

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homebytheriver · 17/04/2017 20:49

Oh she is genuine as she was there when the house was bought. I think she is 17.

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Damselindestress · 17/04/2017 20:50

So sad but it could be a scam. Some people will go to any lengths to manipulate you so you have to be careful. It's m so difficult when someone has an upsetting story like that but you just don't know if you can trust a stranger who shown up on your doorstep. I wouldn't let her in but would offer to call her carer for her.

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FeelingSmurfy · 17/04/2017 20:50

Can't see that it would help because it wouldn't look right anymore, and I think it would feel more confusing for her and mix up her memories

Sometimes the thought or something is better than actually going through with it

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Damselindestress · 17/04/2017 20:50

Sorry X post!

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myoriginal3 · 17/04/2017 20:53

In that case I would let her in

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DearMrDilkington · 17/04/2017 20:54

If your sure she's genuine then I'd let her in.

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MrsTerryPratchett · 17/04/2017 20:56

If she's genuine, why are you worried? We have the very elderly man who lived here and built our staircase 50 years ago round every so often.

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homebytheriver · 17/04/2017 20:57

Not worried exactly just feel awkward.

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EpoxyResin · 17/04/2017 20:58

If you feel odd about it exchange contact details, tell her now isn't a good time but you'll arrange a more convenient one with her.

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Emmageddon · 17/04/2017 21:01

If she is recently bereaved, then maybe spending a few minutes in her childhood home may provide some comfort. She may have some special memories of her mum related to your house. Her mum can't have been very old if she is only in her teens, she could be grief-stricken.

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DJBaggySmalls · 17/04/2017 21:01

YANBU, it could be awkward if you let her in, so say no.

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