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Not sure how this should be dealt with

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homebytheriver Mon 17-Apr-17 20:24:53

A teenage girl has been asking to come in and saying that she lived in this house with her mum who has since died. Feel so sorry for her but AIBU to not be totally comfortable?

sonlypuppyfat Mon 17-Apr-17 20:26:47

I like a drive past the house I grew up in, but I wouldn't want to go in

SmileEachDay Mon 17-Apr-17 20:27:36

Don't let her in, obvs.

Is she upset?

homebytheriver Mon 17-Apr-17 20:29:08

Doesn't seem to be?

SmileEachDay Mon 17-Apr-17 20:29:58

How old - 13? 19?

TeaBelle Mon 17-Apr-17 20:30:31

Maybe offer to take some specific pictures for her if she would like?

CookieLady Mon 17-Apr-17 20:31:13

Don't let her in.

muckypup73 Mon 17-Apr-17 20:32:13

It depends how old she is and if she is genuine.

mineofuselessinformation Mon 17-Apr-17 20:34:06

Don't let her in, but do ask if there's anyone you can ring for her.

SmileEachDay Mon 17-Apr-17 20:34:57

If she's a young teen I'd offer to call whoever looks after her at home. If she's an adult I would say sorry, you don't let strangers into your house.

myoriginal3 Mon 17-Apr-17 20:35:32

Does she seems upset?

myoriginal3 Mon 17-Apr-17 20:36:24

Doh. You already answered my q

myoriginal3 Mon 17-Apr-17 20:37:08

Ask her why?

Beeziekn33ze Mon 17-Apr-17 20:38:08

Could be genuine or so many kinds of a scam. Could what she said be true?
Anyway don't open the door to her again, not worth the risk in my opinion.

Floggingmolly Mon 17-Apr-17 20:38:39

How long have you lived there?

homebytheriver Mon 17-Apr-17 20:49:36

Oh she is genuine as she was there when the house was bought. I think she is 17.

Damselindestress Mon 17-Apr-17 20:50:01

So sad but it could be a scam. Some people will go to any lengths to manipulate you so you have to be careful. It's m so difficult when someone has an upsetting story like that but you just don't know if you can trust a stranger who shown up on your doorstep. I wouldn't let her in but would offer to call her carer for her.

FeelingSmurfy Mon 17-Apr-17 20:50:31

Can't see that it would help because it wouldn't look right anymore, and I think it would feel more confusing for her and mix up her memories

Sometimes the thought or something is better than actually going through with it

Damselindestress Mon 17-Apr-17 20:50:57

Sorry X post!

myoriginal3 Mon 17-Apr-17 20:53:39

In that case I would let her in

DearMrDilkington Mon 17-Apr-17 20:54:12

If your sure she's genuine then I'd let her in.

MrsTerryPratchett Mon 17-Apr-17 20:56:19

If she's genuine, why are you worried? We have the very elderly man who lived here and built our staircase 50 years ago round every so often.

homebytheriver Mon 17-Apr-17 20:57:59

Not worried exactly just feel awkward.

EpoxyResin Mon 17-Apr-17 20:58:38

If you feel odd about it exchange contact details, tell her now isn't a good time but you'll arrange a more convenient one with her.

Emmageddon Mon 17-Apr-17 21:01:06

If she is recently bereaved, then maybe spending a few minutes in her childhood home may provide some comfort. She may have some special memories of her mum related to your house. Her mum can't have been very old if she is only in her teens, she could be grief-stricken.

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