Why is this woman so obnoxious towards DH?

[Hoolahoops]

How does an adult woman in her thirties get to a point where she behaves like this?

When she arrived at our house and DH brought her bags up to her room, rather than saying thankyou, she sarcastically said, "You can't put anything down in this house can you?" When he went to top up her glass at lunch she said, "Its ok I'll let you know if I'm thirsty". When he held the door for her going into a shop she wanted to go in, she said, "Are you going to just stand there like a muppet?" The most embarrassing moment though, was on the same walk when DH had lifted the DC over a gate and helped me over. When he offered her his hand, she said, "I know you think I'm a heffer, but you don't have to make it do f-ing obvious!"



The context to all this is that she came for Easter lunch with no gifts, flowers or wine. She let her 6 year old wander with chocolate hands and face and wipe it all over the sofas. She was using the c and f words as a matter of course during the whole visit.

Finally, when DH offered to take her bags to the car, she said, "My arms won't f-ing fall off you know,"

I will not be asking her here again, but AIBU to wonder how some women can get to the point where they can't even accept basic manners from men and have to make a spectacle of themselves in the process?

[StillStayingClassySanDiego]

Who is this woman and why didn't either of tell her to stop being so bloody rude?

[Wando1986]

Bit of a dripfeed. Who is she in relation to you all?

[AnyFucker]

Is she a relative ?

And her behaviour was generally awful, not all of it was directed at men/your husband

[user1471441839]

She sounds draining. Is this your husbands sister ?

[tigerdriverII]

I think it might be helpful to know what her relationship to your DH IS

[BoneyBackJefferson]

Some women are just arseholes.

[Billben]

Sweet Lord, what a joy she must be to live with.

[Rainydayspending]

That sounds as though she's projecting a lot of issues. Who is she? I am guessing a relative of DH?

[MerryInthechelseahotel]

Did she come to stay or just for lunch?

[Religionorno]

Did you not pick her up on the swearing/rudeness/allowing her DC to wreck your furniture? Because I would have done al three pretty quick.

[Bluntness100]

Who is she op and what's the back story on their relationship?

[MerryInthechelseahotel]

Maybe she didn't like him fussing over her?

[StillStayingClassySanDiego]

I'm guessing it's his sister.

[doughnutcraver]

Is this a ex partner/wife??

[MadamePomfrey]

What is the relationship?? I'm struggling to understand why you let all this go on without saying something to her? In my opinion 'how some women can get to the point where they can't even accept basic manners from men and have to make a spectacle of themselves in the process?'. Is because no one stands up to them and says your being out of order.

[Hoolahoops]

Sorry, she is s friend from a course I did years ago. We were out of touch for years as I felt we had little in common tbh. She lives up North. She is going through a separation and had been on a spa day in London on Saturday and wanted to extend her visit (not pay for a hotel probably).

[Purplepeonies]

Bloody hell she sounds awful. Who is she in relation to your DH?

[PanGalaticGargleBlaster]

If I was your DH I would be dumping her bags in the street and telling her to piss off. Do you usually let people treat your husband like shit without any intervention on your part?

[StillStayingClassySanDiego]

What!.

That's awful, did you tell her how fucking rude she was?

[KoalaDownUnder]

I don't understand why you can't just say who she is?

I mean, obviously she's rude, though.

[FiveShelties]

I wonder why both of you would allow 'this woman' to remain in your home. She obviously has no respect for either of you so why not show her the door?

[Hoolahoops]

I did wipe her DDs hands and face several times, but wouldn't most mothers do this themselves?

[BoneyBackJefferson]

Hoolahoops

There wasn't someone called Laura who invited their bf down to the hen night as well?

[Xcrispypancakesx]

If it's a family member, is this perhaps how the family just communicate with each other. I'm northern ? so perhaps more direct than others, but some of this stuff would pass for flirtation up here.

The kid smearing chocolate around is ignorant, but the rest ?

[TheHodgeoftheHedge]

If a guest of mine spoke to my DH and behaved like that, I'd be showing her the door.