I have NCed for this since it's potentially outing.
Dripfeed version: we were given a bunch of stuff that was gross and needed a huge amount of cleaning/sorting. Skip to bottom for question...
Dropfeed version: we're expecting in a few weeks, and have been given heaps of baby stuff, for which I am beyond grateful. For context, stuff from A and B was freshly laundered, in good or great shape, i.e. I'd happily use that stuff outside of the house right out of the bag. Then C offered us all her leftover stuff, and again I was thrilled and accepted. Our schedules cross like ships in the night a lot, so it was easier for her to drop bags off outside our door (she lives very close by) whenever she'd got it sorted. In the first drop was about four half-binliners of clothes and I'd say half of them smelled strongly of mould. Absolutely nothing had been laundered. Dirty tops, trousers, knickers, everything. Some of it was really dirty - covered in mud, paint, food, play-doh, sellotape, stickers, and more. Some had been "modified" with scissors - literally sleeves/frills/whatever hacked off, threads left hanging, ragged zig-zag edges. About half the toys/books were damaged beyond use. Overall, it meant a massive clean-up operation before weeding out anything that still hadn't come out usable, but I figured people live different lives and got on with it. Then, more bags kept appearing - probably about four more altogether over the space of a week. Thankfully they were getting smaller - the last was a carrier bag - but the stuff was in increasingly poor shape to the point that the last lot went entirely into the bin. Latter items included books with 80% of the pages torn out, slot-on block things that were missing the main toy, a welly missing its mate, a pair of shoes, one with the main buckle snapped off, an opened bag of nappies that must have gotten damp since they were unused but were halfway-fat, the nuts and bolts for... something, a very out-of-date opened box of baby food, that kind of thing. At that point I actually started to feel a bit annoyed and was on the cusp of saying something but thankfully the "gifts" stopped.
To play devil's advocate on my own AIBU, after the clean-up operation, we did get a pretty decent haul - I'd say a stuffed-full binliner of clothes, and a carrier-bag full of toys and books. We ended up keeping about 50%, donating about 5% to charity shops that we just didn't like (not C's fault of course), and throwing the remainder away.
So... the AIBU, because I can't figure out if I'm being a precious arsehole: When you hand stuff over to others (e.g. baby clothes, maternity clothes, toys, etc.) do you make sure they're clean and ready to use? WIBU to start getting annoyed with the last few bags of stuff?
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Crapuccino · 17/04/2017 12:41
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