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To refuse freecyclers because they don't say please?

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PuffinNose Mon 17-Apr-17 11:46:36

That really.
I've put a few offers on there. Nothing hugely exciting. I said on the ads that I'll pick a name tomorrow.
Husband thinks I'm being OTT by automatically deleting the replies that just say "I'll have this" or "put me in the hat" etc., in other words, no please or thank you.
My personal favourite so far, who husband agrees will be deleted is "I will collect this 2day. Give me ur addy. I 2 busey 2 wait. I will collect them al. Carl".
I'm not being unreasonable to expect a few manners when I'm going out of my way to pass on some stuff I could easily sell, am I?
I feel sad that my first AIBU is so boring!

VimFuego101 Mon 17-Apr-17 11:47:38


SellMySoulForSomeSleep Mon 17-Apr-17 11:47:47

Yanbu. Manners cost nothing.

HecateAntaia Mon 17-Apr-17 11:48:31

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

NormaSmuff Mon 17-Apr-17 11:49:21

unless you really want rid of it.
i agree

longlostpal Mon 17-Apr-17 11:49:28

Carl's message is rude, but in general I do think you're a bit U. It feels a bit weird to me to expect people to think you're doing them a favour -- if you prefer to sell, then sell.

NormaSmuff Mon 17-Apr-17 11:49:36

manners maketh man

Chloe84 Mon 17-Apr-17 11:50:19


harderandharder2breathe Mon 17-Apr-17 11:51:11


"Can I have this please?" Takes five seconds

AlternativeTentacle Mon 17-Apr-17 11:51:11

I've been doing the same for years. Been freecycling for around 12 years and only ever given to people who are polite.

monkeywithacowface Mon 17-Apr-17 11:52:00

I would ignore people without any manners but not sure I understand why you need to do the whole "name in a hat" thing. Surely just give to the first person who politely asks for it and can come get it?

You do sound a little bit like you want a medal for giving away items. If you want to make some money and sell them go for it; no biggie or pass on to a charity shop if you want to do a good deed.

caoraich Mon 17-Apr-17 11:52:30

Yanbu. I do the same. The worst are the ones who don't say please and demand to come get it at a particular (inevitably inconvenient) time. Or ask you to deliver it to them! You're getting something for free, pal.
My usual response is a curt "sorry it's already gone" but to the particularly rude I am guilty of replying saying that I've given it to someone whose message was more polite blush

TheWitTank Mon 17-Apr-17 11:52:54

YANBU. How hard is it to type please or thank you at the end of a message?

PenelopeFlintstone Mon 17-Apr-17 11:53:53

They would annoy me too.

Nairsmellsbad Mon 17-Apr-17 11:54:16

Of course you're doing them a favour. One of the things I like about freecycle is that you can choose who you give things to and I'd also choose polite over rude. YADNBU

KC225 Mon 17-Apr-17 11:57:20

Set yourself up as a superhero with manners as your power. It is sorely needed in this world

megletthesecond Mon 17-Apr-17 11:58:41

Yanbu. I was selective when I used to freecycle.

MovingtoParadise Mon 17-Apr-17 12:02:23

It's 'may I have this please'.

Anyone who says this makes me get excited in my grammar knickers and gets the item grin

Babbaganush Mon 17-Apr-17 12:05:58

I do the same! Manners cost nothing.

Trills Mon 17-Apr-17 12:08:26

You can refuse freecyclers for any reason you wish

You are giving away your thing. You get to pick.

Don't be an arse about it or mess people around or make them jump through hoops, but be as picky as you like.

neonrainbow Mon 17-Apr-17 12:09:47

I can't abide people who piss around going "may not go to the first person/ names out of a hat." Just give it to the first person who asks nicely and stop wasting people's time.

Trills Mon 17-Apr-17 12:10:15

Name in a hat is for people who think that giving away their thing is a big deal and who will feel guilty if they are not fair.

QueenArseClangers Mon 17-Apr-17 12:12:30

Unless 'Carl' is after a dictionary that you're Frecycling. Then he desperately needs to get it!

AmysTiara Mon 17-Apr-17 12:13:35

YANBU I do this too.

Some people are so rude.

LemonSqueezy0 Mon 17-Apr-17 12:13:48

the "name in the hat" means it's fairer, and not the same person who is always online getting the items as they are first off the mark.

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