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AIBU?

AIBU to think my DD's hand needs to be looked at?

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moobootoo · 17/04/2017 08:12

DD is 13 and has spent the weekend with her DF. On Friday she somehow hurt her thumb. She said it is painful to move, bruised and swollen. Her DF has been giving her ibuprofen for the pain, but other than that, nothing. She is coming back this morning and I'm not sure whether to take her to minor injuries or leave it.. her aunt seems to think it doesn't need looking at which is why no one had taken her so far.. WWYD?

AIBU to think my DD's hand needs to be looked at?

AIBU to think my DD's hand needs to be looked at?

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divadee · 17/04/2017 08:15

I would get that looked at if it were my teen daughter. It's not like them to complain for 2 full days if it didn't really hurt.

Rossigigi · 17/04/2017 08:16

Get it looked at lovely mine bruised like that and my thumb was so painful when I fractured my scaphoid bone X

luckylucky24 · 17/04/2017 08:17

I would take her. That is some serious bruising.

HalfCarrot · 17/04/2017 08:17

I would get it looked at if painful, did that to mine last month but didn't hurt so I left it. Showed neighbourhood medic who would have had it x rayed.

ToesInWater · 17/04/2017 08:19

Definitely have it looked at. I once accused DS2 of being a drama queen when he complained about hurting his foot, an x-ray a few days later showed three broken bones

moobootoo · 17/04/2017 08:23

You've all confirmed what I thought. I can't actually believe he hasn't taken her already to be honest, but then I'm slightly neurotic about bones as she has broken her wrist 3 times, so get everything checked.

Thank you.

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LouKout · 17/04/2017 08:24

It's maybe just sprained but I'd be getting it checked too

NewUserNameHere · 17/04/2017 08:54

Worth getting it checked out maybe but "can't actually believe..." is a bit over the top. It looks like it's only bruising and out of you, her father and her aunt, who have seen it in real life, you're in the minority.

moobootoo · 17/04/2017 09:01

@NewUserNameHere

I don't think it's a bit strong. They were at the hospital yesterday visiting a relative and couldn't just take her in there to get it checked out.

I guess he doesn't see why he should give up his precious time sitting in minor injuries, but I will have to give up mine. If she was injured with me, I would take responsibility.

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OddBoots · 17/04/2017 09:02

Sounds like there is back story there but yes, if that was my dd I'd get it checked in case, especially with a history of fractures.

NewUserNameHere · 17/04/2017 09:12

They were at the hospital yesterday visiting a relative

Well, remember, posters on an internet forum can only base their answers on the information you provide.

There's clearly some animosity between the two of you so you may struggle to have a balanced view. I'm not sure I'd be rushing to A&E with the bruise: especially as she does have movement in her thumb and hand. Taking responsibility doesn't mean taking them to A&E. It can be asking other people's opinions (as both you and he have done), giving appropriate pain relief (which he did), and keeping an eye on her. Elevating an issue isn't always the best option and if it does turn out to be just a bruise then it will be you who wasted your time, your daughter's and medical resources and him who behaved entirely appropriately.

As I said, I think I might take her there but the "can't believe" plus other comments suggest that this is about more than a bruised palm.

I hope it's nothing but a soon-forgotten bruise.

moobootoo · 17/04/2017 09:22

I too hope that it is nothing but a bruise, but with her history of broken bones, I do worry.

When she goes back to school tomorrow and can't take part in PE, then she'll be sent to the nurse and It will be me who is called out of work to take her to have it looked at.

I won't be burdening A&E, I'll be taking her to minor injuries.

If we would have listened to him, the her second broken wrist would have been left untreated, so forgive me for not. And yes, there are some issues between us, one of them being this is the first time he's had her to stay this year and has decided not to bother financially supporting her anymore - amongst other things.

Thanks for your well wishes.

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msgrinch · 17/04/2017 09:28

Why post in AIBU if you just want other posters to be up your arse and fawn all over you, like you're some messiah of parenting. Your attitude issue towards pp is odd, are you always this stand offish? Maybe that's why your ex struggles with talking to you. new had a very good point.

Mrsmorton · 17/04/2017 09:30

Just take her then. Don't forget to check in on Facebook.

DoItTooJulia · 17/04/2017 09:34

Gosh, not sure why such weird posts from some people. Yeah, I'd get that checked out, especially if you have a MIU.

hhorvath · 17/04/2017 09:38

Is the mechanism of injury actually unknown?

Withholding medical care from a child or delaying it is neglectful. Probably not enough to trigger SS while all they can do now is deal with extreme crises but it's still not on.

HPandBaconSandwiches · 17/04/2017 09:49

Don't go to minor injuries unless they can X-ray. The big risk is a scaphoid fracture which can have lifelong consequences if untreated. Just take her to A&E - absolutely appropriate.

Don't read anymore, just go. Hopefully it's nothing but a bruise.

moobootoo · 17/04/2017 15:15

Took DD to minor injuries. They can't decide whether it is fractured or if her bones haven't fully fused. She has it in a splint and we have an appointment at the fracture clinic.

Thanks for all your advice.

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