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Is my mum unreasonable?

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user1492374848 Sun 16-Apr-17 21:37:52

I live at home with my mum, dad and siblings. I'm 24 years old and have recently started dating a guy. I'm going to spend the night with him next week and I told my parents tonight - they have freaked out completely. am I being unreasonable in thinking that it's ok for me to do this??

sunshinesupermum Sun 16-Apr-17 21:39:02

You are not being unreasonable at all. Why are they freaking out? You're 24!

TimeforANewTwatName Sun 16-Apr-17 21:39:05

Urrhh that's weird. Telling your parents about your sex life.

Wolfiefan Sun 16-Apr-17 21:39:06

You're 24. So an adult. You can have sex. But how recently is recently?

ChasedByBees Sun 16-Apr-17 21:39:21

Yes but your parents probably don't want to hear the details.

user1492374848 Sun 16-Apr-17 21:39:22

They're not happy because they've not met him sad

PurpleDaisies Sun 16-Apr-17 21:40:31

Why did you tell them? confused

PortiaCastis Sun 16-Apr-17 21:40:37

Why tell your Mum you're going to have a shag ?

Justmadeperfectflapjacks Sun 16-Apr-17 21:40:51

Depends if you meant in their home. .
Some parents are shockabout that sort of thing happening under their roof!!
Especially if you have younger siblings!!
If you mean at his house then tell them to chill!!

user1492374848 Sun 16-Apr-17 21:41:01

I've not told them about my sex life - I've told them I'm going to be away so not to worry about me, i very rarely spend the night away from home so I've told them I'm going to be away. I've been seeing him for 3 weeks. He lives an hour away and works long hours so rarely can see him, making most of 2 days off

AnnieAnoniMouse Sun 16-Apr-17 21:41:14

Twenty fucking four. FGS. They don't need to meet him.

Why, oh why, did you tell them so far in advance?

Leave home. Get your independence!

sailorcherries Sun 16-Apr-17 21:41:38

You are 24. You don't need their permission to sleep over with someone, but you do need to double check with them before bringing anyone in to their home and respect their boundaries.

gamerchick Sun 16-Apr-17 21:42:22

Why tell them, it's weird! confused you don't have a curfew or anything do you?

Out2pasture Sun 16-Apr-17 21:43:14

are there issues with your competency?
it might be nice for your parents to meet the young man, have him over for dinner and know where he lives.
should you not return they would look foolish telling the police that they have no clue.

user1492374848 Sun 16-Apr-17 21:43:34

To top it off - I'm not even going to be having sex with him!! I've told him we're taking it slow and he's ok with that

Wolfiefan Sun 16-Apr-17 21:44:01

Are they worried as you have only known him a very short time and they are worried for your safety? When I met DH I remember my mum asking if I would meet him at the place we had our first date and not go in his car. Just in case!
24. Live at home. Rarely spend the night away. Time to cut the apron strings?

Justmadeperfectflapjacks Sun 16-Apr-17 21:44:26

I had 4 dc at 24!!

user1492374848 Sun 16-Apr-17 21:45:43

I absolutely agree I need to leave home but it's very hard when you've not got a lot of money!!

harderandharder2breathe Sun 16-Apr-17 21:46:29

They're probably assuming you will be having sex.

The way to get your independence is to leave home.

Nanny0gg Sun 16-Apr-17 21:48:07

It is only courtesy for the OP to warn her parents that she won't be home.

However, that should be the end of it.

Instasista Sun 16-Apr-17 21:49:43

What do you mean by freaking out? Shouting at you? Banning you from going?

lazyarse123 Sun 16-Apr-17 21:50:29

Tell them you are an adult and you are just letting them know your plans so they won't worry (not that you need to do this). My 27 yr old daughter came back home after splitting with her long term boyfriend, she got another one after about 4months and he has slept here with her. It is a very uncomfortable and odd feeling but she is an adult and she does not flaunt it so we live with it. She would move out if she could afford it.

TimeforANewTwatName Sun 16-Apr-17 21:50:33

It is only courtesy for the OP to warn her parents that she won't be home

Three weeks in advance? shock

user1492374848 Sun 16-Apr-17 21:51:31

It's only one week in advance - not even that, it's Wednesday evening in staying over smile

PurpleDaisies Sun 16-Apr-17 21:51:38

I think you need to talk to your parents about house rules and boundaries while you're living there.

Are you paying rent?

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