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Sunnyspilates Sun 16-Apr-17 18:32:08

Im going oit with my bf for 2 yrs. We having a loads of arguments lately about his phone and his ex. He was always hiding his phone from me and i was always saying he is hiding things from me. Lately he said he cleared his phone and gave me his password. When i got into his phone, i saw 2 womens picture which he vlaimed they are his friends and i saw his ex' s pictures aswell. Even tho i didnt found any doggy texts in his phone , it does really bothering me when i know he got his normal girl friends in his phone. And i m thinking if i am wrong? He saying he doesnt see them he Just talk to them on the phone when ever. And when he comes to his ex, he still go around her house to see his 14 yr old boy. And for me he spends too much time there. And he claims they get on really well.
Inam really confused and dont know what to believe anymore.
Can someone help me please

Wolfiefan Sun 16-Apr-17 18:35:41

You sound incredibly jealous. Nobody can tell you if he's cheating but you can't object to him seeing his son. confused
I never know where my DH has put his phone. He's not hiding it. I just don't feel the need to monitor him.

Janeofalltrades1 Sun 16-Apr-17 18:36:52

To me, relationship is all about trust and for some reason, you don't trust him. Why?

SmileEachDay Sun 16-Apr-17 18:38:30

It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. If you aren't happy, end it. And do it before you have children with him (assume you haven't?)

He should prioritise his son, he should spend time with him.

ilovesooty Sun 16-Apr-17 18:40:16

Of course he goes to see his son. If you can't accommodate that in your relationship, end it.

StillDrivingMeBonkers Sun 16-Apr-17 18:40:41

Even tho i didnt found any doggy texts in his phone

I'm lost. What does this mean? He goes dogging? With whom?

longlostpal Sun 16-Apr-17 18:45:57

Normal, non-sexy pictures of other women on the phone in ordinary social settings is not a problem. Seeing his son is not a problem (indeed, it would be a red flag if he did not see him). Cordial or friendly relationship with ex is not a problem. Not being able to trust him ... seems like a problem. Could be your problem, could be his, hard to tell from the info given.

longlostpal Sun 16-Apr-17 18:46:17

bonkers I think it's a typo for dodgy

User998877 Sun 16-Apr-17 18:51:14

If you think he's cheating and have no proof, then you either believe him and stay or don't and leave.

It does come across that you begrudge him spending time with his son though and this is very wrong. You should never try to stop him seeing his son and if you try to do this you will lose.

Sunnyss Sun 16-Apr-17 18:57:07

I never sopped him to see his son. My problem wasnt that. My problem is that he seems really friendly with his ex. I like when they get on. But dont like the idea when they speak on the phone a lot and they text a lot. She calls him for everything like they still together. She seems like she still demanding on him. And that bothers me.
I got jealous in time. Bec he was saying to me , he making sexual jokes ( pictures or videos i think)with his normal girl friends. Do u think this is normal?

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