I once read somewhere if you encounter one jerk in a day then bad luck they are the jerk, however if you encounter lots it's probably you.
This made sense and I do now think if everyone is winding me up it's probably me at fault. However this weekend has been one argument after another some petty things some major things and I don't think I'm in the wrong but maybe MN jury will tell me I am!
First argument with my dad - was meant to see him this weekend, he cancelled last minute as he and his partner have been invited to his partner's daughter's house. He said with blended families you have to compromise I said very true just it was sad that it was always me that had to compromise as you spent August Bank Holiday, Christmas, New Year and now Easter with them. He told me I was being petty and unreasonable.
Second argument was with my partner - we looked at 11 houses that I had selected, he said no to every one we viewed. I asked for either reasons for the no or what had he got in mind. He said I was expecting him to compromise on everything I asked compromise on what what did he want (area is right just properties not but I think he wants property that's £150k more but he's not said that and we can't afford that so...) he said I should know what he wants if I knew him and then said I was so unwilling to hear his viewpoint.
Third argument adult child wants to watch Rogue One, asks if they can have cinema TV over the Easter weekend, I said we have people over Saturday night and I needed to tidy before they came so not Sat pm/eve, but any other time is absolutely fine. Third time I get told I don't know how to compromise and why does everything have to revolve around me. They haven't spoken to me since, but seemed to enjoy the company of their friends as well as mine that came over last night.
Fourth and Final (hopefully) argument from my teenager - I was taking the dog for a walk asked if they wanted to come, they said yes if we went to woods an hour in the car away, I said not today as the car has charity stuff in it so can't fit the bike in, but we can head to the woods or the beach or wherever but just had to be from the house. Why am I so inflexible and only think of myself, and no they won't spend time with me. Now they aren't talking to me.
So 4 people have told me in 3 days, I'm selfish, uncompromising and only think of myself because I didn't immediately just say yes whatever.
So am I really being the one that's off? Or is it everyone around me?
I am now having a peaceful couple of days as no one is uttering a word to me.
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To think although all the people I'm encountering this weekend think I'm a jerk, I'm not the jerk?
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Notajerkmaybe · 16/04/2017 14:50
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