My friend is a lovely sweet person but sometimes I really want to scream at her to lighten the fuck up!
She isn't to my knowledge depressed or anxious but she does seem to live in this ever-present cloud of negativity and I do laugh about it but I also find it draining. We both had babies within a few weeks of one another in summer 2015 and we both had difficult pregnancies.
All she spoke about was feeling sick, was being fed up of people commenting on the bump, asking if it was a boy or girl, asking if they had chosen any names. I remember that I did feel a bit irritated that she complained she had 'done nothing' for her birthday because she felt too ill - they'd had a week in the Lake District It got to the stage when I was scared to mention anything about her pregnancy but I was really suffering myself.
They were moving house and it was endless complaints that no one was buying it, etc., even though it was a two bed house and would have been adequate for them and a baby. Then it sold and after the elation they could move, the complaints started AGAIN - the new house was too isolated, the garden too big, on and on and on.
Since the baby arrived, she's a brilliant mum, adores her little DD, but the complaints continue. Work is a major one - she hates her job but felt she couldn't leave because of maternity pay (she wanted a second) I understood this but then it was whinge, moan, I'm never going to have a second baby I am sure I'm infertile. She tried for 2 months and got pregnant. I honestly thought she'd be thrilled but she's complaining AGAIN the gap between her and DD1 will be too small, she feels sick, everyone will go on about the bump, she won't be able to go on holiday (!)
I feel like screaming. I am partly saying this affectionately and I know we all have problems but HOW can someone with loving and involved parents and in laws, a happy, healthy child, a loving husband, a secure albeit stressful job, a happy background (she's done travelling for instance I can only dream of!) and a lovely home be SO FUCKING MISERABLE ALL OF THE TIME???
And I KNOW I sound like a spoilt bitch but because she constantly complains about her life mine doesn't get a look in
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
AIBU?
To wish my friend would have something positive to say for a change!
25 replies
moodiemargaret · 16/04/2017 10:39
OP posts:
SnowBallsAreHere ·
16/04/2017 10:54
This reply has been deleted
Message withdrawn at poster's request.
OfficerVanHalen ·
16/04/2017 11:17
This reply has been deleted
Message withdrawn at poster's request.
Don’t want to miss threads like this?
Weekly
Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox!
Log in to update your newsletter preferences.
You've subscribed!
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.