I have a DD, 3. She is bright and articulate for her age, and quite confident.
I live near DM and step-father. Several times recently, when we visit and are saying goodbyes, step-father tries to grab DD and give her a goodbye kiss. DD then shouts no, get off (or similar). Step-father then tries to hold her tighter, turn her or whatever and insist he get a kiss. He's playing around a bit, treating it like a joke - but at the same time holding her so she can't get away, which makes her shout louder and still refuse the kiss.
I want DD to be able to have her own boundaries, and want her to grow up thinking/knowing that when she doesn't want to be touched, kissed or whatever - by anyone - and says so, that should be respected. So the latest time this happened, I loudly said 'it's ok DD you don't have to have a kiss if you don't want one.' Step-father let go when I said that, but looked annoyed at me.
DD willingly lets DM kiss her.
I am a LP so DD doesn't really have many men around. She's quite happy playing with step-father apart from this one thing.
AIBU to say she should get to choose who kisses her, even at age 3?
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should DD age 3 get to decide who kisses her?
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usernamechange6579 · 12/04/2017 17:31
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12/04/2017 17:36
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