DH has gone away to stay with a very old close friend this weekend.
He always seems to get "dragged out" to this friend's various gay clubs and get stoned. He used to smoke a lot but hasn't for a number of years and no problem if he wants the odd puff or to have a social life.
He was supposed to be home at lunchtime today and said he would text this morning to let me know he was on his way.
3 o clock comes and no text so I rang him and he's still at mates which is fair enough but he decided to tell me that on Friday they went to a "sports fetish" club. I saw red at this and had a go! Basically its full of topless blokes in shorts snogging.
I wouldn't have a problem if they'd gone down the pub but these places are basically hunting grounds (his mate is very promiscuous.)
Anyway each to their own and I am generally a very live and let person but this leaves me feeling a bit pissed off. What could he get out of it, he doesn't drink etc? I was annoyed as he said he would ring to speak to DD this morning but didn't which hadn't helped my mood.
I now feel really guilty as the poor bloke is entitled to a social life. He's off out this week with work colleagues and I really don't care about that.
I don't want to control his life at all but it seems like he's chasing his old life where they went to these clubs all the time to pop pills etc.
I think its because these places are very sexualised that I feel this way. It would be the same if he went to a strip club I think.
What would you feel? Am I a control freak? Just need some perspective!
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Confusedposter · 09/04/2017 17:16
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