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to ask if there's anyone else who has never met a trans-person?

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manicinsomniac · 09/04/2017 16:28

I have never (knowingly) met a trans person. I have no trans friends or acquaintances. I have never (in 11 years) taught a trans child. I have no friends whose children are non binary, trans or gender queer.

I'm not a recluse. I know 100s of people.

The prevalence of trans threads on mn baffles me. I know they're important issues. I find many things about the trans agenda very concerning. But I just struggle to believe it is as common and pervasive as reported. I've seen posters refer to ' all my trans friends' , there are several non binary children in dd's school', 'I know loads of trans people' and things like that.

Is there anyone else who, whatever their opinion on the apparent 'trend/craze' just does not see it in their every day lives - at all?

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KateDaniels2 · 09/04/2017 16:31

I work in an office of 112 people, so not huge but not small. There are 3 trans women.

Dds school has several trans students. At least 3 in her year group.

Maybe its the area i live in.

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Glossolalia · 09/04/2017 16:31

I haven't knowingly met a transperson, either.

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FerdinandsRevenge · 09/04/2017 16:32

If you're involved in LGBT activism or live In Brighton you will know more because you're involved in groups that organise for them. Hence "all my trans friends" I know of a child people are calling trans. I have a friend with a non binary son. I think if you look at the numbers regarding gender recognition clinics you'll see hat if you don't know any that you soon will. This is the problem, it used to be goth. Now it's children wanting hormones, lots of them

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user1491565842 · 09/04/2017 16:32

Loads at schools which worries me.

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AnitaPallenbergsKnees · 09/04/2017 16:33

A friend of a friend went from m to f but that was ages ago now.
Never heard of anything since.

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Wishiwasmoiradingle2017 · 09/04/2017 16:33

I know none. .

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OrangeJulius · 09/04/2017 16:34

I don't, but I am pretty reclusive.

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megletthesecond · 09/04/2017 16:35

Only one person. Our old neighbour, but it was several years ago.

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goodpiemissedthechips · 09/04/2017 16:35

I used to work with a transwoman.

That's about it afaik.

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FerdinandsRevenge · 09/04/2017 16:35

And again if it becomes a "trend" in your child's school you will then get more as they see it as an option.

www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-nottinghamshire-35532491

to ask if there's anyone else who has never met a trans-person?
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araiwa · 09/04/2017 16:37

ive met loads

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deadringer · 09/04/2017 16:37

Me neither. But i live in ireland and we don't have laws that allow people to legally change their sex/gender, at least as far as i know.

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Bluntness100 · 09/04/2017 16:37

op, it's 0.3 percent of the population who are transgender, which works out at about 213, 000 people out of a population of 64 .1 million.so 63.9 million not transgender and 213,O00 who are.

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ITCouldBeWorse · 09/04/2017 16:37

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OdinsLoveChild · 09/04/2017 16:38

I think there are pockets of different people across the country. I know loads (more than a dozen) Polish/Romanian families and not 1 experienced any kind of abuse following Brexit vote. Reading on mumsnet everyone knew someone who had experienced offensive and abusive language/actions but my friends are genuinely perplexed by the stories they read because they didn't experience this themselves.

I do know several family members who are trans/non binary. They have been for years but don't see the need to draw attention to themselves by declaring their personal preferences to the masses. Some people feel the need to declare it because keeping it to themselves is suffocating.

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NoArmaniNoPunani · 09/04/2017 16:38

None. I work in Brighton and live nearby too

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Patriciathestripper1 · 09/04/2017 16:39

The only ones Ive seen are on tv as characters.
Saying that, there is a chap who shops at our local Lidl who wears a skirt and women's dangly earrings. I did overhear him talking to another chap once and he said he just likes to wear skirts and earrings and he dosnt want to be a woman.

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cuirderussie · 09/04/2017 16:39

A friend's teenage daughter identifies as a trans man and claims that she and her boyfriend are therefore a "queer couple". She has had no medical treatment and presents much as I did at her age: razored undercut hair, severe makeup and Dr Martens. Male name and pronouns. All a bit Hmm to me although I do think it's rather appropriating of the experience of actual gay people since she is essentially a straight girl with a boyfriend.

The trans unbrella is getting rather massive these days and seems to cover mildly gender nonconforming teens.

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cuirderussie · 09/04/2017 16:40

deadringer yes we do since 2015, in fact the law in Ireland has gone far further than in the UK.

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ProfYaffle · 09/04/2017 16:41

I've met a small number of transwomen over the years but don't have any actual friends who are trans. Dd says there aren't any trans kids at her school so far as she knows.

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Moussemoose · 09/04/2017 16:43

One of my friends DC.
No one at my DCs school.
Of the young people I work with 5 or 6 who may transition or may be gay.

As far as I know not one fully transitioned adult.

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SuckItUpSnowflake · 09/04/2017 16:43

I don't have a wide friendship circle and don't live anywhere alternative. I've had two trans friends, met a transwoman changing at the gym, there was a trans child at dc's school and three at dh's work.

I'm always surprised when people haven't met them because it seems very prevalent.

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deadringer · 09/04/2017 16:43

Ooops i tell a lie, i just googled and the gender recognition act was passed in 2015. Who knew? I still have never (knowingly) met a transperson though.

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5moreminutes · 09/04/2017 16:44

I live abroad in a rural area and don't think it's become a thing here yet. DD (early secondary school) has a male friend who might identify as trans if it were a fashionable idea, but he's just a boy who prefers hanging out with his friends,who are all girls, making those silly musically videos they all do, and playing music (instruments), in-line skating, going for bike rides, hanging out on the swings, drawing and making jewelry and shopping and going for icecream and chatting than hanging out with groups of boys who do... a lot of the same stuff actually, but usually louder and with more football thrown in (though a lot of the girls play football here, lots of girls teams)... DD said the other day "when I first met him I thought he was one of the noisy boys, but he prefers it with us, hes not really a boy or a girl, he's a [insert his first name]"

I'm glad there's no political agenda and he can just be himself, and can grow up to be just a [himself] whoever that turns out to be. He's a nice lad.

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