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to ask if there's anyone else who has never met a trans-person?

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manicinsomniac Sun 09-Apr-17 16:28:27

I have never (knowingly) met a trans person. I have no trans friends or acquaintances. I have never (in 11 years) taught a trans child. I have no friends whose children are non binary, trans or gender queer.

I'm not a recluse. I know 100s of people.

The prevalence of trans threads on mn baffles me. I know they're important issues. I find many things about the trans agenda very concerning. But I just struggle to believe it is as common and pervasive as reported. I've seen posters refer to ' all my trans friends' , there are several non binary children in dd's school', 'I know loads of trans people' and things like that.

Is there anyone else who, whatever their opinion on the apparent 'trend/craze' just does not see it in their every day lives - at all?

KateDaniels2 Sun 09-Apr-17 16:31:02

I work in an office of 112 people, so not huge but not small. There are 3 trans women.

Dds school has several trans students. At least 3 in her year group.

Maybe its the area i live in.

Glossolalia Sun 09-Apr-17 16:31:35

I haven't knowingly met a transperson, either.

FerdinandsRevenge Sun 09-Apr-17 16:32:13

If you're involved in LGBT activism or live In Brighton you will know more because you're involved in groups that organise for them. Hence "all my trans friends" I know of a child people are calling trans. I have a friend with a non binary son. I think if you look at the numbers regarding gender recognition clinics you'll see hat if you don't know any that you soon will. This is the problem, it used to be goth. Now it's children wanting hormones, lots of them

user1491565842 Sun 09-Apr-17 16:32:29

Loads at schools which worries me.

AnitaPallenbergsKnees Sun 09-Apr-17 16:33:41

A friend of a friend went from m to f but that was ages ago now.
Never heard of anything since.

Wishiwasmoiradingle2017 Sun 09-Apr-17 16:33:53

I know none. .

OrangeJulius Sun 09-Apr-17 16:34:46

I don't, but I am pretty reclusive.

megletthesecond Sun 09-Apr-17 16:35:02

Only one person. Our old neighbour, but it was several years ago.

goodpiemissedthechips Sun 09-Apr-17 16:35:11

I used to work with a transwoman.

That's about it afaik.

FerdinandsRevenge Sun 09-Apr-17 16:35:26

And again if it becomes a "trend" in your child's school you will then get more as they see it as an option.

www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-nottinghamshire-35532491

araiwa Sun 09-Apr-17 16:37:01

ive met loads

deadringer Sun 09-Apr-17 16:37:20

Me neither. But i live in ireland and we don't have laws that allow people to legally change their sex/gender, at least as far as i know.

Bluntness100 Sun 09-Apr-17 16:37:35

op, it's 0.3 percent of the population who are transgender, which works out at about 213, 000 people out of a population of 64 .1 million.so 63.9 million not transgender and 213,O00 who are.

ITCouldBeWorse Sun 09-Apr-17 16:37:41

I have known

One FtT very nice, pillar of community on rough council estate in the 70s. Surprisingly well accepted in retrospect.

One mtt in local shop, but notorious , but no more than that. Only know socially

One FTT teen - desperately unhappy after suffering abuse. Lack of support from cahms was a big problem

One ftt teen starting testosterone and a major pita as aggressive.

One mtt - violent offender. Very entitled middle aged who demanded the moon on a stick.

Typically I have only known one at a time, so I don't know where people find hoards of trans friends. I do know a lot of lesbians though, so I don't think I live in some strange Ivory tower.

OdinsLoveChild Sun 09-Apr-17 16:38:49

I think there are pockets of different people across the country. I know loads (more than a dozen) Polish/Romanian families and not 1 experienced any kind of abuse following Brexit vote. Reading on mumsnet everyone knew someone who had experienced offensive and abusive language/actions but my friends are genuinely perplexed by the stories they read because they didn't experience this themselves.

I do know several family members who are trans/non binary. They have been for years but don't see the need to draw attention to themselves by declaring their personal preferences to the masses. Some people feel the need to declare it because keeping it to themselves is suffocating.

NoArmaniNoPunani Sun 09-Apr-17 16:38:52

None. I work in Brighton and live nearby too

Patriciathestripper1 Sun 09-Apr-17 16:39:08

The only ones Ive seen are on tv as characters.
Saying that, there is a chap who shops at our local Lidl who wears a skirt and women's dangly earrings. I did overhear him talking to another chap once and he said he just likes to wear skirts and earrings and he dosnt want to be a woman.

cuirderussie Sun 09-Apr-17 16:39:31

A friend's teenage daughter identifies as a trans man and claims that she and her boyfriend are therefore a "queer couple". She has had no medical treatment and presents much as I did at her age: razored undercut hair, severe makeup and Dr Martens. Male name and pronouns. All a bit hmm to me although I do think it's rather appropriating of the experience of actual gay people since she is essentially a straight girl with a boyfriend.

The trans unbrella is getting rather massive these days and seems to cover mildly gender nonconforming teens.

cuirderussie Sun 09-Apr-17 16:40:54

deadringer yes we do since 2015, in fact the law in Ireland has gone far further than in the UK.

ProfYaffle Sun 09-Apr-17 16:41:00

I've met a small number of transwomen over the years but don't have any actual friends who are trans. Dd says there aren't any trans kids at her school so far as she knows.

Moussemoose Sun 09-Apr-17 16:43:15

One of my friends DC.
No one at my DCs school.
Of the young people I work with 5 or 6 who may transition or may be gay.

As far as I know not one fully transitioned adult.

SuckItUpSnowflake Sun 09-Apr-17 16:43:16

I don't have a wide friendship circle and don't live anywhere alternative. I've had two trans friends, met a transwoman changing at the gym, there was a trans child at dc's school and three at dh's work.

I'm always surprised when people haven't met them because it seems very prevalent.

deadringer Sun 09-Apr-17 16:43:18

Ooops i tell a lie, i just googled and the gender recognition act was passed in 2015. Who knew? I still have never (knowingly) met a transperson though.

ITCouldBeWorse Sun 09-Apr-17 16:43:57

Lol at razored hair and DMs being gender non-conforming! We wore them because they were cool. My terribly feminine 14yo does now.

So horrible for teens to be pushed into boxes of stereotypes.

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