Hello
Probably just having a whinge. Feeling low. Really low. I have 2 dc, 3.5y dd and 14m ds. I work 4 days at a reasonably stressful professional job. DH self employed so flexible but any time away from work or not at his best costs us money - same goes for me but it's not as directly noticeable.
Since ds has been born I've felt constantly overwhelmed, depressed, anxious, generally sorry for myself. I am on the go from 6-630am til 9pm ish. I feel guilty I don't spend enough time with the kids. The house is always a mess although I spend ages tidying / cleaning. We have a cleaner once a fortnight. Small house constantly too cluttered. Trying to sell up and upgrade.
I do 90% housework. Ds still up in the night most nights. I do 90% of night wakings. When I ask DH to do it he does but by the time I have nudged him awake I am awake too. He lets me lie in 1-2 mornings at the weekend which is ace. He also generally drives if we go out for tea so I get 2 beers or so.
Today he's said he's sick of driving cause I had two beers with dinner. I've been teary all day and half enjoyed talking to my friend we met. He said he's struggling too and we should be in it together. I've always understood that was part of the bargain of me doing so much and him so little around the house. Now I feel mad. Am I selfish? I know I am so so lucky with what we have. I struggle with the kids all the time. Dd is very very hard work. Not potty trained properly, I think she may have ADHD she's so difficult plus I never get a full nights sleep. I'm so run down. Should I be trying harder? I feel so overwhelmed. 😢
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Do I need to give my head a shake?
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overwhelmedlaura · 08/04/2017 20:19
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