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rosethyme Sat 08-Apr-17 10:22:34

Are we all taking note hmm

rosethyme Sat 08-Apr-17 10:25:11

Sorry it's not an AIBU but thought i'd share on here.

catscurledupbythefire Sat 08-Apr-17 10:27:42

I've seen that before. It's quite funny. I don't exactly think it's bad advice for any non working parent but it's a little extreme!

Foureyesarebetterthantwo Sat 08-Apr-17 10:28:34

I want a wife like this!

rosethyme Sat 08-Apr-17 10:29:52

I used to know of a few marriages like that.

00100001 Sat 08-Apr-17 10:30:37

It's from 1950. I fail to see your point confused

tinkerx5 Sat 08-Apr-17 10:33:56

When I got married 21 years ago my M-I-L gave me a laninated photocopy of something like this to hang in the kitchen...I seriously hope it was meant as a joke😐😯

ItMustBeBedtimeSurely Sat 08-Apr-17 10:34:40

I really need a wife like this.

Genuinely don't know how women managed to wait on their husband like this and not explode with rage and resentment.

Asmoto Sat 08-Apr-17 10:34:41

grin I'm the full-time worker in my marriage, so perhaps I should ask my husband to take note. I didn't realise he should be arranging my pillow and taking my shoes off for me when I get home!

Rawhh Sat 08-Apr-17 10:45:59

I also fail to see you point rose. I do this every day. And the fact you don't means you are failing in your duty as a wife.

I also dotted round in full 1950s getup I look quite fabulous you know

Rawhh Sat 08-Apr-17 10:46:24

** totter - auto correct fail

BlueFolly Sat 08-Apr-17 10:53:21

I used to do that kind of stuff before my ex got home. More because I was scared of him than anything else.

BeyondThePage Sat 08-Apr-17 10:57:41

hahaha - what a stupid article

but seriously - creme egg, bottle of cider, TV remote.

Happy as Larry.

RiversrunWoodville Sat 08-Apr-17 10:58:48

Oh god I wonder would someone prepare my children for me? (I am a cross between a SAHM and a Work from home mum but still!)

RedStripeIassie Sat 08-Apr-17 10:59:55

Fucking hell. These 1950's men must have been shit hot in the sack to get that treatment wink.

seasontotaste Sat 08-Apr-17 11:05:43

This reminds me of the appalling lyrics to Burt Bacharach's otherwise finely crafted 1963 song Wives and Lovers.

"Hey! Little girl
Comb your hair, fix your makeup
Soon he will open the door
Don't think because there's a ring on your finger
You needn't try anymore
For wives should always be lovers too
Run to his arms the moment he comes home to you
I'm warning you
Day after day
There are girls at the office
And men will always be men
Don't send him off with your hair still in curlers
You may not see him again
For wives should always be lovers too
Run to his arms the moment he comes home to you
He's almost here
Hey! Little girl
Better wear something pretty
Something you'd wear to go to the city and
Dim all the lights, pour the wine, start the music
Time to get ready for love
Dim all the lights, pour the wine, start the music
Time to get ready for love
Time to get ready
Time to get ready for love
Time to get ready
Time to get ready for love"

Sons and Rutters more like, and the use of the word 'love' is risible. The truly tragic thing is that I think there were women in the past who believed this and let it blight their lives by bringing up little emperors. Mrs Trump Mère, I'm talking to you.

Bettercallsaul1 Sat 08-Apr-17 11:07:14

It is hilarious, isn't it! I especially love the bit where you "arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes"! grin

Nanny0gg Sat 08-Apr-17 11:12:29

I am a child of the fifties and I can categorically state that it wouldn't have crossed my (SAH)mother's mind to do any of those things except have dinner ready.

I don't often manage that...

nancy75 Sat 08-Apr-17 11:12:37

In the late 90's I attended a wedding of a work colleague ( she was a Mormon) during the service someone read this out as a guide to life after the wedding. at first I thought it was a joke but apparently it wasn't

Grilledaubergines Sat 08-Apr-17 11:13:17

Yeah it's outdated as hell. But actually the basics of it could be applied to any stay at home adult, male or female. One goes out to work one works in the home (and probably goes mildly crazy).

Whilst looking back we can see how extremely sexist life was, and how limiting it was for 'housewives' I do think that in a healthy marriage it was a simpler way of living. Much less pressure on both parties and everyone has their role.

hesterton Sat 08-Apr-17 11:23:00

My mum and dad used to sleep in full old fashioned sheets, 2 or 3 wool blankets and eiderdown and a bed spread. Mum made it every morning (before going to her full time job and after cooking, serving and washing up full breakfasts for 6). She used to take every single cover and blanket off the bed, including the under blanket.Then start from scratch, walking round the bed to tuck each corner of each blanket and sheet in.

I asked her one day why she didn't just straighten the sheets and make the bed with all the bottom corners remaining intact, at least when sheets weren't being changed, as they were when the bed was vacated.

She told me she used to do that, but my dad said he didn't like it and told her he'd prefer her to strip the whole lot every day.

And she fucking did it! Every day for 50 freaking years. Baffled.

LuluJakey1 Sat 08-Apr-17 11:24:44

I am a SAHM and I do usually make a meal for us although DH quite likes to cook so he will say just leave it for him or can we cook together- it helps him unwind.

Last night he got home to DS (2) naked and running around shrieking.
At 39 weeks pregnant, I was lying on the sofa with my feet up just letting DS go wild. Toys everywhere. There was a dead mouse sicked up on the kitchen floor which the cat had eaten in the garden then come in and thrown up (I hadn't been aware).

He was thrilled by it all.

theredjellybean Sat 08-Apr-17 11:28:11

it is terribly sexist and outdated etc etc...but ( and i am a professional with a very fulltime job) i can't help but think i would quite like to be that wife...i would quite like to look after my DP like that....he also works ( very very long hours in a terribly important and very busy role !!;...i did say that tongue in cheek but he does work 14 hr days often and weekends) and only this week there was a post from someone who said how much nicer life had been when she was a housewife during a period of unemployment and how much happier she and her DH were ....i suppose now it would be a case of it doesnt have to be the wife, it could be the husband doing these things
but all over mumsnet there are exhausted, stressed working mothers and maybe just maybe life would be so much nicer if we could all go back to being housewifes or househusbands a la 1950's...

caveat: i would last 2 weeks and be going mad.....and by 3 weeks would be putting gin on my cornflakes !!! but wistfully think about a flower print apron and baking cupcakes all day

Ava5 Sat 08-Apr-17 11:32:21

You also have to look at it from the perspective of the post-War period. The 40s had a brief wave of feminism which must've scared the patriarchs senseless once the men came home from the front. This is why the Stepford wife social engineering happened in the 50s and this is a great example of that. It's totally unrealistic, just like modern raunch culture 'relationship advice' to women these days:

Sex it up!
Splurge on -torture-beauty treatments and -itchy impractical undies- hot lingerie!
Learn pole-dancing!
Have -think of England- maintenance sex cause otherwise your man will get it elsewhere!

angry

ThumbWitchesAbroad Sat 08-Apr-17 11:36:21

*MIL told me a story after I'd married DH and moved to Australia with him (he's Aussie). She told me that not long after she'd married his father, she was "nagging" him about something (i.e. probably asking him to do something he'd failed to do several times already) and he got angry, threw his bowl of spaghetti up in the air so it went all over the wall and ceiling (FFS!) and shouted at her to "stop nagging me, woman!" and she "never nagged him again".

I was horrified. I think she meant it as an object lesson - as in, don't nag the man, he doesn't like it - but all it did was make me think "you poor sap, did you really fall for that one?" And of COURSE she had to clean it all up as well. But that's the way she was brought up. SAdly for her son, it's NOT the way I was brought up and I wouldn't put up with that kind of shit at all. "Poor" DH has to take his turns at cooking and washing up, despite him working and me looking after the children, because I have 2 boys and I will NOT have them grow up thinking that women do all the "wifework". I don't accept the accusation of "nagging" either - I point out that if DH had done whatever the first time of asking, I wouldn't need to keep asking. So it's entirely his own fault that I'm still asking him to do it (or "nagging").

Such a load of bollocks. angry

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