Hi everyone
I am just looking for a bit of perspective on my mother's behaviour.
When she doesn't get her own way she has these tantrums to make you feel bad for her and give in. Over the years she has fallen out with most people. That includes friends and most of our family. She always plays the victim, nothing is ever her fault. She doesn't have a partner either so at times I think she gets bored. I am an only child and feel that she thinks it's my responsibility to keep her entertained. We see her and MIL usually once per week, sometimes more.
Her tantrums include whining and crying and then getting angry. She often is aggressive in general. She recently kicked her dog in one of her tempers in front of my neighbour's poor DC. She once threw a bottle of pop at DP's head. Then tried to pretend it didn't happen. Never apologised. He was setting up her printer so it happened out of the blue.
If I tell her I went for a walk I get told off for not asking her. This is for every little thing we do. She also does this to other people, like nobody is allowed to do anything without her. She treats me and DP like children, often referring to us as 'the kids'. This drives me mad!
Her latest tantrum was regarding our DC and her being sick of our 'rules'. This was because we asked her to wash her hands before picking our baby up. She sneezes and coughs into her hands and I find that really grim. She also pokes her fingers around her mouth. She does not understand basic hygiene. Her response was 'I am his friggin grandmother'. I tried to explain that that does not magic germs away! She has not apologised for her behaviour (never does). DP wants nothing to do with her anymore. I can see why most people stop talking to her.
Sorry this is long. I could write a book about this I have got so many examples. AIBU to not give in to her tantrums anymore? I usually apologise (even if I feel I have done nothing wrong) and try to keep the peace but I am really fed up now.
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AIBU?
To not put up with this behaviour anymore?
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MrsChopper · 08/04/2017 09:30
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