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tiptoeingpixie Thu 06-Apr-17 23:14:00

Before I say anything, I absolutely think what she did was disgusting, abhorrent and alien to me as a mother how she could do what she did.

After watching programme tonight I've changed my mine in that no, she wasn't evil like some have claimed, she was someone with low intellect, numerous children by various fathers, the stereotype benefit mother that the press love to villi file.

Interested in what other's who saw the programme thought x

Astro55 Thu 06-Apr-17 23:15:38

I've not watched it - but it was well documented at the time about her low intelligence - poor kids

beachbodyunready Thu 06-Apr-17 23:17:43

What programme? I would've watched if I'd known.

NotStoppedAllDay Thu 06-Apr-17 23:19:24

I also have a thread in chat

But actually, she drugged her child for months. Shannon refused to go back to her mother

She's not evil? Just a bit unintelligent?hmm

UnconventionalWarfare Thu 06-Apr-17 23:20:48

She's a fucking evil cunt who should still be behind bars YABU

tiptoeingpixie Thu 06-Apr-17 23:22:01

WorraLiberty Thu 06-Apr-17 23:22:12

Of course she was bloody evil and selfish too, beyond belief.

That has nothing to do with the press vilifying her.

tiptoeingpixie Thu 06-Apr-17 23:23:56

eeek sorry wrong link!!!

DexysRunnerMidnight Thu 06-Apr-17 23:25:00

There is something in your post which suggests that women with low intellect and children by different fathers could, through their circumstances, fall into the trap of abusing their children.

It makes me uneasy.

tiptoeingpixie Thu 06-Apr-17 23:29:05

Evil though? like a serial killer such as Ian Brady or the yorkshire ripper??

Or what we see day in day out with people who pop out numerous kids day in day out, drink every nite with their mates and smoke fags ffs

she's obviously a bad mother - her house was the local 'benefit scum' congragating round her house most nights.

Evil though? Disagree

tiptoeingpixie Thu 06-Apr-17 23:30:52

DexysRunnerMidnight Thu 06-Apr-17 23:25:00
There is something in your post which suggests that women with low intellect and children by different fathers could, through their circumstances, fall into the trap of abusing their children.

It makes me uneasy

I'm sorry it makes you feel uneasy - look up facts smile

tiptoeingpixie Thu 06-Apr-17 23:31:54

that is abuse by proxy not the parent before you twist

ghostspirit Thu 06-Apr-17 23:33:22

I do kind of feel bad for her. There was a professional I forget who. Who said she could see something was not right and felt she was one to keep an eye on. It seemed she was easy lead. How comes we don't hear about the man.Karen Matthews boyfriend uncle? Who actually had Shannon. I do believe she was funerable. And her life is fucked I'm surprised she has Kept her new id secret so far. Her kids have been through hell and are probably reminded everyday. I really hope they have a good life now

UnconventionalWarfare Thu 06-Apr-17 23:33:41


ZilphasHatpin Thu 06-Apr-17 23:35:49

she wasn't evil like some have claimed,

Well of course she wasn't because there is no such thing as evil. There are reasons for every single human behaviour, none of those reasons are due to "evil". What she did was choose to abuse and neglect her children. One of them to a much more horrific extent than the others. Her intellect, upbringing, relationships, will have all had bearing on the decisions she made to do that. Just like all of us make decisions based on those same things. Most of us don't choose to abuse children.

DexysRunnerMidnight Thu 06-Apr-17 23:35:53

Do you mean facts about less intelligent women who have children to different fathers abusing their children? Can you point me to what you have in mind?

In any event i would disagree that drugging your child and offering them up for captivity does not constitute abuse in its own right.

But anyway, in seriousness, what do you mean by 'facts'?

ZilphasHatpin Thu 06-Apr-17 23:36:59

Evil though? like a serial killer such as Ian Brady or the yorkshire ripper??

Neither of those were evil either. All human.

WorraLiberty Thu 06-Apr-17 23:37:27

If you think drugging your child for months and hiding her in a draw, is not the actions of an evil person, I absolutely despair.

'Popping out kids'?

'Local benefit scum'?

Are you for actual real? hmm

LagunaBubbles Thu 06-Apr-17 23:41:25

There's always someone willing to excuse abuse just because it's a woman isn't there?

tiptoeingpixie Thu 06-Apr-17 23:44:32

I'm for real yes smile

Those descriptions aren't my opinion - before you roll your eyes I thought that was obvious ergo what my OP is about smile

Please re-read - You think she's evil, I don't. I absolutely don't think she's akin to the likes of myra hindley etc. What I do think is she was an easily led, low intellect parent that most on MN spout out about women who don't work and and have numerous kids with numerous fathers.

Yes, I'm for real rolls eyes back again xx

Gingernaut Thu 06-Apr-17 23:45:58

Even stupid people can tell right from wrong.

If she was simply easily led, she had loads of chances to come clean to the police about where Shannon was.

She must have been interviewed alone at some point and could have said then what had happened, but she stuck to the story.

That she thought or had been convinced by another that they could get away with it suggests stupidity.

The fact she agreed to go along with it without a thought for her child's safety and wellbeing suggests a stone cold cow.

tiptoeingpixie Thu 06-Apr-17 23:46:15

Can I just reiterate - I am NOT saying what she did was right - it was very wrong!!! I'm questioning the 'evil' tag etc.

ghostspirit Thu 06-Apr-17 23:47:50

I.forgot about the drugging. And how long if was for.

FeralBeryl Thu 06-Apr-17 23:51:41

Ghost it was for months apparently shock

OP I kind of understand what you mean after that programme, it was actually quite non biased, I agree that she was of extremely low intellect, easily led etc.
She categorically was able to tell the difference between right and wrong. What she did was wrong, therefore I'm inclined to agree with the evil side rather than misled side.
Very tragic tale for everyone involved. I hope her kids have been able to move forward.

Is anyone watching the hideously sad programme after it about the murder of the 14 year old boy?

Megatherium Thu 06-Apr-17 23:58:05

I think it's distinctly possible that her low intelligence meant that she simply didn't think through the consequences of what she did on her daughter, and just thought it was a harmless way to make money. The fact that realistically the plan could never have succeeded shows how dim she was. If she had fully appreciated and understood how her daughter would be harmed but decided to go ahead anyway because she just didn't care, then yes, she would be evil - but I really doubt that that is the case.

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