Aibu to want a boob job...(67 Posts)
Desparately unhappy with my boobs following my three beautiful children. I've always been petite but its now beyond a joke. My left breast is a A cup, my right breast AA. Some bras fit my left breast but sort of gape massively off my right breast as its so much smaller. Ive tried proper bra fittings etc but cant find one thats comfy. They either stand proud from my smaller breast, ride up or feel tight on the back. I went away with my lovely, kind and supportive husband who loves me the way i am, but couldnt find any underwear that made me feel remotely nice never mind sexy.
We arent flush with cash but not destitute either. Can anyone give me their experiances? Idea of cost, length of time of work etc? Im sick of feeling like this, found myself unsuspectedly crying like a baby when i tried yet another A cup bra tonight that made me feel hideous.
I mean if it's really a confidence killer then save and do it
Would it be to even them out or to enlarge at the same time?
All women have discrepancies in their boob sizes, a cup is really normal, I have one size F and one size E, I use a tear drop shaped insert to even it out sometimes or wear soft material cups.
I've asked my partner if he knows which is bigger and he can't tell but I can really tell. I used to get really Self conscious about it, as wrap dresses and low necklines are skewed.
Maybe before dropping thousands on surgery go for a quick counselling session and make sure surgery will provide the results you want
Yes i see what your saying. I think theyve probably always been a cup size different but the shape (sagging 🙈) has changed sort of leaving a flat bit at the top hence the huge gape in my smaller bust. It has never bothered me before like it does now. I go on holiday in July- i normally wear a padded type bikini, but the smallest size stands proud from my right bust meaning if i stand side on you can see my nipple could i ask where you bought your insert?
Yeah what about chicken fillet inserts they might help give you confidence in a bikini.
After children boobs are not usually great I don't know many women that say I love my boobs after babies. Mine are small anyway but now after DS down a cup size and have stretch marks.
I'm beyond caring, with a great padded push up they look ok. Have you tried a padded push-up? You can get the inserts in loads of places, primark do them.
I had one last year. It was honestly the best thing I have done and don't regret it at all. I done a lot of research went to plenty of different reputable clinics and met with different surgeons and made my desision. I have two young children which I breastfed and my breasts felt empty I went to a A/B cup and I am now a DD. And no one realises because I always wore ridiculously thick padded bras.
I have 450cc under the muscle implants and yes it hurts, it feels like an elephant is sitting on your chest and limited use in the arms however I was fine 1-2 weeks later so please make sure you have someone to help you whilst recovering it is definetly needed especially if you have children.
I felt extremely selfish at first because it was a large sum of money (£4,595) which could of gone on other things however it is something I have wanted done for years, I have always had issues with my breasts and I would never go topless whilst intimate and I'd get dressed/undressed in a different room. I feel so much happier my clothes look better and I can finally look at them in the mirror and not be so angry or disappointed in them.
It is a big desision and I wish you the best in your journey. I'm so glad I had mine done.
If you want to ask anything else I will be happy to help!
I had mien done for 18 months before problems started to develop. And if you go with a big clinic such as the hospital group when it goes wrong they do not want to help. I had to go to top NHS breast surgeon he wrote a letter demanding my implants come out otherwise he'd report them to some medical board. Needless to say they took them out and I lost my 5k.
My issue with the padded push ups is i have nothing to push up Before children i could scrape a bust together from under my armpit but even that trick is a no go now i know what you mean by chicken fillets now, i had some years ago from ann summers. I remember them being very sweaty but i imagine thet are better now.
Thanks for your experiance HJG, you've hit the nail on the head with feeling guilty. Although we are comfortable money wise i have just abliterated my savings on maternity leave as ive been off just over a year and due to return to work very soon. I'd probably put the cost on a CC 0% and pay it off over 12-24 months. But that money could be spent on much better things. My husband is happy for me to do this but god, its such alot of money.
What went wrong Alwaystired... if you dont mind me asking? Ive just been reading the hospital groups web page.
I had mine done 5 years ago.
I was a empty B cup after loosing weight had 500cc over muscle implants and went to a whopping F cup. Was guaranteed a DD. But they are one of the best things I've had done!
My before and after photos were incredible but I always wore padded bars that made me look a lot bigger. I only told a few people but not one person actually commented.
My surgeon was amazing. I went through a private hospital rather than a cosmetic surgery place on a few recommendations from a forum I found (sofemine) I believe.
Worth every penny of the £5k and would actually of paid double with how amazing they are.
Thanks pinksky... at the very least im starting to feel better that i dont have to stay this way forever x
Well I was an a cup. No sag. Wanted a DD as I'm only 5'3. I got 32FF!!! DIDN'T like them from the start but they basically said tough nothing is guaranteed. They were so heavy and started to sag and look like natural boobs when I wanted pert fake type looking ones. They said. A boob job will only make bigger what you already have there.
I dealt with it. I woke up 18 months later and one breast had swollen to a HH cup and they flat out refused to see me. Said I couldn't have an infection at that point. I said maybe not an infection but clearly something is bloody wrong!!!
I was rushed to emergency breast clinic by my gp who scanned me and bad to draw so much fluid from buy breast. It just kept filling up and filling up I kept having tot ravel to NHS.
They wrote me letter seen my surgeon at the hospital group and he said no we will wait another month see if it resolves. He didn't even know what was wrong. The NHS surgeon said there was no other fix other to have them out as they were Rubbing on my natural breast tissue causing inflame reactions.
The hospital group have cosmetic surgeons. Not plastic. They don't do as long training as plastic surgery and don't really have training on how to fix the problems like plastic do as they deal with reconstructive daily. Such as cancer patients etc.
Anyway at this point I'd seen NHS several time and also travelled to Birmingham which is two hours away multiple times as I wasn't allowed to see another surgeon and my surgeon only came to my nearby clinic once a month. I rang a dn said I'd not get off the phone till they booked me in for removal. I was off work as t this point as I couldn't move my arm. The swelling was travelling around my body they did remove and treated me like shite the day of removal. No pain meds. My sister begged for me to have them I was crying in pain. Nothing like when I first went in. I had morphine the lot when they went in!! Once they got your money they don't care. And if something goes wrong they don't care as it's a he'll of a lot to fight them and try to prove them wrong. I tried sueing for negligence and had no chance basically. Every word they twisted. Every call log they deleted. Disgusting.
Forgot to add:
I did many consultations with many companies. Harley medical and hospital group to name a few but felt it was the hard sell. It was as I still get hounded by email now. I felt they were just after my money.
The hospital I went to did not push, I had to contact them no sales men / women all hospital staff. It was so different and I trusted them.
It was just after the pip scandal. But I was reassured that they would not need replacing in the near future. My surgeon actually threw a implant on the floor and stood on it to show me how durable they were and said they should last me my lifetime. I was 26 when I had them done.
It did hurt tho but after a week was up and about pretty much as normal. Was a pain sleeping tho as I sleep on my front.
I had mine done 10 years ago with Bupa. Absolutely fantastic no problems, so glad I had it done. I'd go as far to say it was life changing for the better. You need to weigh things up. With regards to the guilt thing, I've since gone on to have two dc and I even feel guilty about buying a pair of shoes for myself rather than something for them (even though they don't need anything) so it's part of being a parent you'll always feel guilt. I would say, if it makes you happy they'll all be happy. Mine wasn't under the muscle so I was pretty "normal" within two weeks. Good luck OP, I remember the feelings you describe very well.
I think you would be better of investigating padded bras and counselling. Your child/ren are still young and surgery is a risk. Look at what happened to poor kanyes mum. It's not a risk worth taking, a woman is more than her bra size.
I think it's a big commitment to make, do you know how big you'd want to go? Have you looked into like the different types, like if they'd be natural, where you want them positioned.
I'd look into surgeons, you want someone that has the best reputation.
Think what you'd gain from having a boob job, if it's confidence etc.
Its your body so we can't judge.
I had mine done in my late 20's after my first child. I didn't want them bigger, just not 'empty'. They looked so good when they were first done, really real, not fake at all. Now I've had 3 more kids, they have a bit of sag and I should probably get them uplifted but I don't care so much about how my boobs look any more. I did lots of research- my advice is avoid the big cosmetic surgery companies and be prepared to spend decent money, you do not want to skimp on this. Mine cost £5k. The surgeon I went to is very well respected, has made lots of TV appearances etc, and is a plastic surgeon specialising in reconstruction as well as cosmetic surgery. I don't regret it at all although I probably wouldn't bother doing it now, I have different priorities but I LOVED them in my 20's! If it will make you happy and you can afford it then why not? You only live once.
I think breast surgery is literally the western world equivalent of FGM. Unnecessary surgery mutilating our own bodies and risking our health. We say it's because we want to feel confident but it is literally only because we have been conditioned and conditioned to want to meet this standard of what's "atttactive". And being atttactive in this way is worth risking our health and spending money a lot of people can't really afford.
I'm totally not hiding anybody who does this by the way, I just think it's really sad that people feel that they need to go to these extremes because their boob look like somebody who has had a baby.
Had mine 10 years ago as a 30th birthday present to myself, best 5k I've ever spent, this was pre dc and never once regretted it. 10 years later they still look great and I've had 2 dc.
Cousin had hers done at 38 after having her 3 dc, never regretted it.
No amount of counselling or push up bras could have cut it.
Go for it but just make sure you use a recommended surgeon.
I've had mine done, best purchase I ever made
I went from an empty b to an e. The hospital was like a 5 star hotel and the day wasn't scary like I thought it would be, it was exciting and I basically chilled in the room watching the massive tv until it was time for the op. Then it was like I blinked and woke up with nice boobs!
If yours are saggy at all you might need an uplift which adds to the price and scarring. You'll be limited on what size you can go up to and the surgeon will tell you whether you can have overs or unders, the final result and healing process will depend on that. I reckon you should go for it!
Thanks very much everyone. Its reassuring to hear people had a happy ending in similar circumstances to mine.
I agree with the poster who said surgery is a huge risk, im of a medical background so aware of the risks and dark thoughts have crossed my mind. I have read about having the proceedure done with local rather than a general which is something im willing to consider.
Im certainly not wanting to be the next Pricey, im just a sniff of 5ft and would look ridiculous with a huge bust. Id genuinely be happy if i could walk in beau avenue and come out the proud owner of a lovely bra, rather than hiding in m&s with 15 t shirt bras that dont fit and crying.
Thanks again, its lifted my mood just to talk about. My friends/family try to spare my feelings by saying your fine the way you are etc, but im deeply unhappy with the disaster going on under my top!
Beadoran i get were your coming from and ive tried to think 'oh bugger it pip, look at your kids, your hubs loves you, your fine etc' but an hour later im back at square one feeling ridiculous.
It is conditioning i suppose, when you see a bra on a model they have a lovely cleavage etc and i just have ribs. I even Googled bras for the smaller bust, the article banged on about smaller busts being fab... but I'd say all the models featured in the article had at least a c cup!
I have one A cup and one C cup. It's taken me years to come to terms with what I've got. For years I despised them, and thought I should get a boob job, but when I looked into it and realised how much work would be involved (uplift, moving the nipples to a different position, plus two different-sized implants!) and I thought about the risks, including the nipples dying and falling off, and losing sensation, I changed my mind. This was 10 years ago. And I would've been able to get mine done on the NHS, because they're hypoplastic/tubular. I can't bring myself to do it. I've got two young children. I couldn't risk going under GA for something cosmetic. I dislike my boobs. I look crap in nice bras and bikinis. But I try to focus on my good points, and try not to get down about it. I feel like life's too short to let it get me down.
As previous posters have said, you'd have to be very careful with picking a surgeon, if you did go ahead with it. And work out what it is you want to achieve. Lots of people have boob jobs and are delighted with the results, so I don't think you are being unreasonable for wanting one. It's all about how you feel now and how you will feel if you go ahead and it all goes well. But bear in mind all the risks x
I had mine done 9 years ago (I was 23) and I still love them now. They are completely in proportion with my body and look really natural (had round textured 300cc over the muscle). I'm currently 7 months pregnant with first baby and apart from the veins and massive nipples I think they still look great!
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