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To find it so damn hard to leave the house with children...

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Fairweather123 Thu 06-Apr-17 12:36:48

I have two children, 6 months old and 22 months old and I'm currently on maternity leave.

Every day the sun shines both my mum and mil are giving me a hard time because I'm not taking the children out to 'make the most of the weather'. Every day I try to but it seems to take forever to get out and as soon as feeds and bums have been done it seems to be time to start again or something else happens, baby is sick or her bum has exploded so needs clothes to be changed, then 22 month old needs a poo on the toilet and sits there for ages. Then we eventually get out and they both fall asleep!

Anyone else got children of a similar age and finding it hard too?

onemumtwocountries Thu 06-Apr-17 12:40:00

I only have the one DC (nearly 8 months old) and I struggle so much some days. I have to organise the day based on naps and I find it very stressful at times. Also always try to bring the dog along if it's a dog friendly walk as it means I don't have to walk him separately before/after. He stands at the door and whinges the whole time we're getting ready. It's torture. I don't know how you do it with two. I can only hope it should get easier as they get older? flowers

Crunchymum Thu 06-Apr-17 12:44:03

Do as much as you can the night before. Pack a bag, sort out snacks, lay clothes out.

Aim to get out for a time that will give the older DC an hour or two where ever you are going.

Then when they both nod off go and get a coffee and have a bit of time out.

My age gap is larger (2.2y) but I know people with kids of your age who manage the school run everyday. It can be done.

watchoutformybutt Thu 06-Apr-17 12:46:04

Yanbu, its a total faff.
Your children are very young though, don't be too hard on yourself. It's got much easier for me as mine have got a bit bigger. They are 4 and 21 months now. The older one can pop to the loo and put his own shoes on while I'm getting the other ready, etc. Things like that make it easier. A year ago it was horrible.

minesapintofwine Thu 06-Apr-17 12:50:13

It definitely does get easier I promise! Have you got a garden? Maybe just sit out with baby whilst toddler runs around? You say they both fall asleep when you leave the house so how about just looking at it as a possible bit of sun and fresh air for you whilst dc nap in pram?
My dog whinges when she knows shes going out too so I try to get everyone else ready before letting her know shes coming wink

It is hard you have my sympathies. My dts are 5 and in school and in when they were babies the thought of getting them there on time was scary. Of course I forgot older kids are more self sufficient and therefore a bit easier.
I think your mum and mil should back off, unless they are willing to go out with you.
In your position I would aim to go out every other day but dont stress about it.

AppleOfMyEye10 Thu 06-Apr-17 12:50:37

Yanbu it's really hard, I have a 7 month old. But as pp suggested I do as much as I can the night before.

Sugarcoma Thu 06-Apr-17 12:51:23

I feel your pain. Am currently staying with PIL who have a large garden and I keep being encouraged to go out with my newborn but between the constant feeding and nappy changing it feels impossible! Or at least pointless, because if he's at any point napping then I need to jump on that opportunity to take a shower, eat or nap myself instead of faff around in the garden.

LittleWingSoul Thu 06-Apr-17 12:58:08

I have older kids and in the holidays I find this happens too. Fine at getting everyone out of the house by 8am term time, but holidays hit and I'm suddenly incapable of being out of my pyjamas until... Well... Still in them now! Haha. Kids both washed and dressed though.

My DM is also great at instilling weather guilt in me. Don't be too hard on yourself! If you have a garden, can you just hang out there? That's what I'm doing today (with a cuppa and in my PJs... What will the neighbours think?!)

thecatsarecrazy Thu 06-Apr-17 13:42:40

Yanbu. I have a 10 year old, 8 year old and 9 week old. The thing that I find hard is feeds. I can feed baby before we go out but he wants feeding again and I'm not keen on public breastfeeding

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