DH and I are expecting our first child in a few months. Both of our families live in other countries.
We have planned to take time off work, hopefully a few months, as this will quite possibly be our only child due to our ages.
I was recently speaking to my father who mentioned that he and his partner would like to come over when the baby is born and stay for a month. I was a bit taken aback as we didn't really plan to have houseguests immediately, nor do we have space for any. Also, we have no idea how parenthood will work for us. I'm hoping to breastfeed so I imagine I'll be sitting around with my boobs out for much of the day and trying to grab moments of rest. Also, a MONTH?!
DF and his partner would be coming a long way. I don't feel like we can offer them the hospitality that we'd like to, and I don't really want anyone to muscle in on our first months as a family. They aren't very self-sufficient in that they wouldn't be able to drive whilst here, or think to head out for the day or go and do some shopping or sightseeing. I know it will mean that we have another two people to take care of and, frankly, I'm not up for it. I know DH's partner will want to have the baby at every opportunity and I'll probably lose my rag pretty quickly.
AIBU, and is it crushing to just say no?
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To ask my father not to visit?
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FamilySpartan · 05/04/2017 15:29
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