I'll start with a bit of history to avoid a drip feed. A large number of people in my family have serious food allergies. I have a milder one myself. My mother has had a life threatening food allergy for the past 25 years. I am not unaware or unfeeling towards the numerous issues and health concerns of those with serious allergies.
I have three teenaged cousins, all with serious peanut allergies. All three carry Epi-pens. Two of these cousins have been raised to be sensible young women who view their allergies as a fact of life. They see it as something to be aware of, but not afraid. The third, a young man, has been taught that the world is a scary place full of toxins waiting to kill him. At our last family BBQ he was not allowed to eat anything. He drank water provided by his mother.
I am planning my son's first birthday party. Funds are a bit tight as I have been on maternity leave for a year. I had planned to bake a vanilla cake with raspberry jam. I am an avid home baker and home canner. There would be no nuts in the cake or jam. I maintain a tidy kitchen and clean all my baking materials after each use. I do have a sealed jar of peanut butter in the home, but it would be nowhere near any of the ingredients or tools. This is more than sufficient for the two girls, who have been happy to eat at my house before.
My concern is with my male cousin. I am not sure that he will feel confident, or even be allowed, to eat this cake. I had initially planned to go ahead as planned, but a part of me feels like a bad hostess serving something that I know a guest won't have.
There is a nut free bakery in town, but they are very expensive and out of my price range. Also, my mother bought cupcakes from there last year and my cousin still wasn't allowed any. This is a reputable bakery with a huge following so we have no reason to doubt their nut free status.
Is it wrong to serve my own cake, knowing he will be left out, or should I order the expensive cake, with a high likelihood that it won't be deemed "good enough" anyway?
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Sundayspilot · 04/04/2017 17:26
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