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Trifleorbust Tue 04-Apr-17 16:41:33

High street store, late afternoon on the Easter holidays. Child is 9/10.

I've just wheeled my pr into the baby section and she's standing there in knickers. Clearly trying on a school dress or something.


AIBU to wonder what her mum was thinking? There may be a reason but can it be good enough to let your daughter change in public at that age?

Trifleorbust Tue 04-Apr-17 16:42:05

*pr is pram!

hellhasnofurylikeahungrywoman Tue 04-Apr-17 16:44:38

I wouldn't think twice about it to be honest.

Happyandhungry Tue 04-Apr-17 16:45:32


TheStoic Tue 04-Apr-17 16:46:06

I wouldn't care at all, seeing it.

My kids would rather die a thousand deaths than do it, though.

ThePiglet59 Tue 04-Apr-17 16:47:13

Were there queues of predatory paedophiles waiting for you to turn your back?

At least she didn't have leggings on.

mirime Tue 04-Apr-17 16:48:10

I used to work on a childrenswear dept, and I think it's fine if the child is happy to do so but I saw children of that age who were clearly mortified in which case their parents shouldn't have insisted.

Trifleorbust Tue 04-Apr-17 16:48:38

It doesn't bother me seeing it; seeing people naked doesn't bother me at all. But surely it'a a bit inappropriate once they hit puberty? They are likely to feel self-conscious and so are other people.

PodgeBod Tue 04-Apr-17 16:50:26

I would have been really embarrassed about that at that age. A lot of girls are becoming very aware of their bodies by 9/10 and are already starting puberty. I was wearing a training bra by 10. Did she seem upset?

sailorcherries Tue 04-Apr-17 16:50:34

I always take DS in to the changing room to try on any clothes that require him to strip off. It's different if it's a jumper or jacket, but even I'd try a jumper or jacket on outside the changing room.

Trifleorbust Tue 04-Apr-17 16:53:12


To be honest I averted my eyes out of politeness so I don't know! She was talking to her mum about the size, she seemed okay.

TheStoic Tue 04-Apr-17 16:56:53

It's up to the kid, then. If they don't care, I don't see the problem.

clearsommespace Tue 04-Apr-17 17:02:08

On our high street there are shops that do kids clothes up to age 12 (no adult clothes) and they don't have changing rooms. We have to find a quiet corner and I use my coat to hide DD (her request).

harderandharder2breathe Tue 04-Apr-17 17:07:47

I know 7 year olds who are hugely self conscious but I think if the child isn't bothered then it's fine but 9/10 would be pushing it with most girls accepting it

UppityHumpty Tue 04-Apr-17 17:09:40

YANBU. It's ridiculous.

nineanimals Tue 04-Apr-17 17:11:43

There's no way my DD would agree to that and she's only 7! And I wouldn't expect her to either! The parent is totally out of order!

1nsanityscatching Tue 04-Apr-17 17:14:05

I wouldn't do it but would assume that at 9/10 the child hasn't been stripped against her will so most probably isn't embarrassed.

TheHuntingOfTheSarky Tue 04-Apr-17 17:18:15

When I was about 8 I vividly remember my mum making me try a blouse on in the middle of M&S and being astounded (and very cross) that I felt embarrassed and didn't want to do it.

I'm 45 now and the memory has stayed with me, so you are definitely NBU!

NoBetterName Tue 04-Apr-17 17:26:15

She's 9/10, she's still a child. I'm not sure what the problem is if she's OK with it.

I think it's a sad reflection of today's society that we feel the need to teach children to cover up from an early age. Why should children be taught to be ashamed of their bodies? She probably wasn't showing off any more than you'd see on any beach in summer.

Lugeeta Tue 04-Apr-17 17:29:20

9/10yo's who have started puberty are far outside the norm in our school. They still get changed for PE at school together at that age so I don't think getting them to change in a shop is much different. I wouldn't have thought twice if I had seen it amd would do it to my child if the changing rooms were busy (mine wouldn't care at that age!)

MiaowMix Tue 04-Apr-17 17:57:50

9/10 is very young for puberty though, and if the child isn't self-conscious, who cares? Highly unlikely there would be any men in the female chaning rooms anyway.

My ten year old is still a child, she is showing no signs of puberty, although out of her choice she wouldn't want to get changed in front of anyone. Can't fathom why you would mind though?

Trifleorbust Tue 04-Apr-17 18:01:07

Highly unlikely there would be any men in the female chaning rooms anyway.

This wasn't the changing rooms. I don't mean she didn't take her into a cubicle (I wouldn't even raise Em eyebrow about that). This was the shop floor, between the children's clothes and the food hall.

Trifleorbust Tue 04-Apr-17 18:01:16


Smidge001 Tue 04-Apr-17 18:05:17

I don't see the problem as long as the child is happy about it. I'd rather encourage them not to be embarrassed than the other way around. I do it myself all the time grin whenever the changing rooms are too full or too far away. (Well, bra in my case, so the essentials are covered up so as not to offend).

MiaowMix Tue 04-Apr-17 18:40:16

Oh shop floor! My bad 😬. Yeah, that is somewhat surprising... my daughter has been self conscious since about 7 and would rather die than do that!
Odd one!

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