I have 2 DS's both now adults and in early 20's - one away from home and the eldest just away today but under very bad conditions.
I'm sat here now thinking about them as babies, toddlers and growing up and hopes for them, not about high flying jobs, just happy, settled, confident and with enough money in their pockets to allow them choices in life.
Youngest away at Uni - peaks and troughs but finding his way through and building on his life lessons and experiences- so bobbing along.
Eldest DS has some wonderful qualities - compassionate, generous, kind.....but over the last couple of years I've seem some huge changes - moods, he works long hours - I do to, expects all to be laid to him and all has come bubbling to the surface - he's the only one of friends that needs to do anything at home @24 years, I nag, don't know anything about his life - and after being asked to leave after yet another episode of turning up in the early hours v.v.v. drunk without key he was finally asked to leave as he needs some respect and to go out there and experience real world.
Today he has picked up his things after a night away, I had hoped that things would have calmed down, but he's told me that he f....ing hates me that I'm a F...dick and that he will never speak to me again and i'll end up old and alone.
Hurt doesn't begin to explain how I feel...I brought them up alone for most of their life and after rubbish relationships with my parents didn't want this.
I know that this happens in families, I know that I'm not right all the time but AIBU in asking him to leave? My lovely son, what's happened?
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
AIBU?
AIBU adult DS cut off realtionship
30 replies
user1491309983 · 04/04/2017 14:36
OP posts:
Don’t want to miss threads like this?
Weekly
Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox!
Log in to update your newsletter preferences.
You've subscribed!
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.