Sorry this is a long one!
My 76yr old mother lives next door to a 85yr old lady. My mum knows her daughter and suggested the house next door to her when the daughter was searching for a house for my mum. The old lady had moved due to problem neighbours. Initially, for the first few years, my mum got on well with the lady, she often took her out, had her round, introduced her to her friends. Then one day my mum got her washing in for her because it was raining and the old lady went bonkers at her, saying my mum had always had a problem with her washing and she poured out a long list of reasons why she hated my mum. My mum had teased her about how much washing she did (sheets every other day!) but only in good spirit. My mum was very upset she'd hurt her, and tried several times to apologise, put cards through her door etc, but the lady has completely ignored her and blanked her ever since. Then the old lady started calling the police on my mum about anything and everything. If my mum touched her fence (the fence between their houses) or stepped near her front gate. The police always come out, say it's not illegal to touch her fence, but to try not to and try to keep the peace. The old lady has cctv, and if my mum touches the fence (e.g. When weeding her garden) she comes out dancing and saying "I've got you now, you're going to get what's coming to you" then rings the police. She has also called the police out a few times for her other neighbour. But the police always come out, even though nothing is ever illegal. I was there last time they came and asked them if it was even a police matter, and they said no it's a civil matter really. They're very nice with my mum, but it still upsets her and she's had to go to the doctors for help sleeping, she was so upset. It always happens in summer, and today the police rang my mum again to say she's complained about her touching the fence again. I've had enough, and although the police are lovely I feel like complaining as them coming round only serves to make the old lady do it more as she probably thinks they're telling my mum off. Aibu to think they should be telling the old lady to stop and in doing so stop encouraging her?
Any advice welcome. If it were up to me I'd put up a 6' solid fence alongside the 3' railings that are currently there, to screen her from the lady, but my mum thinks it would be ugly and doesn't want to block the lady's light.
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honeyroar · 03/04/2017 21:55
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