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doodleina Mon 03-Apr-17 20:38:31

I'm watching an old 'Come Dine With Me' and the (male) host served his meal in what appears to be a 'first come, first served' style, as in, he served whomever was closest to him first.
A male guest repeatedly passed his meal to his female dining companion so she was served first!
This would get on my tits! Aibu!?

Chloe84 Mon 03-Apr-17 20:44:31

YABU. Nothing wrong with a bit of chivalry.

And it's breasts, not tits.

VeryButchyRestingFace Mon 03-Apr-17 20:44:49

We get so few concessions from the patriarchy as it is.

If some bloke decides to feed me first, I can live with that.

Sylvannas Mon 03-Apr-17 20:46:06

" this would get on my breasts" doesn't have the same ring to it.

todayshey Mon 03-Apr-17 20:46:10

Meh. I'm a female and I always serve ladies first.

NotStoppedAllDay Mon 03-Apr-17 20:47:26

Eh? It's whatever the poster wants it to be!!!

Tits is the saying..... not 'breasts'

alfagirl73 Mon 03-Apr-17 20:49:47

It's proper dining etiquette to serve ladies first. Doesn't bother me in the slightest - but then I do enjoy traditional table manners and a little chivalry. Most fine dining establishments would serve ladies first.

Grilledaubergines Mon 03-Apr-17 20:49:50

Why on earth to females need feeding first?

Concessions? What for?

No thanks, I wouldn't want to be treated differently to a male.

HerBluebiro Mon 03-Apr-17 20:52:12

I'm watching downton abbey (yes a few years late) and they have said it isn't ladies first, that's a European convention.

Anyone know the truth of this?

Either way. It is the host's choice. Not the guest's

VeryButchyRestingFace Mon 03-Apr-17 20:54:37

Concessions? What for?

I should have said 'equality' then.

We have some ways to go on that front so I'm A-ok with being served first.

sniffle12 Mon 03-Apr-17 20:58:09

I wouldn't really mind getting my food first!

But at work we have narrow doorways and often when I'm walking with a man, even if he's in front of me he will stop, open the door, and let me through first. It's a faff and takes more time than if we both just went through the door in order!

Strigoi Mon 03-Apr-17 21:02:14

I am a feminist and frankly, I can't bring myself to be bothered to be offended by people saying 'ladies first' or opening a door for me or offering me a seat. A waiter called me 'my darling' and 'my love' at the weekend and I wasn't offended by that either.

doodleina Mon 03-Apr-17 21:03:17

Who the bloody hell says 'that gets on my breasts' 😂😂😂😂 ?!!?

blackteasplease Mon 03-Apr-17 21:05:47

Door would annoy me. I like to usher the other person through in a sort of proprietorial way.

Food first, yes please grin

Chloe84 Mon 03-Apr-17 21:09:17

Well, I find tits more offensive than a man serving me food first.

VeryButchyRestingFace Mon 03-Apr-17 21:15:35

Well, I find tits more offensive than a man serving me food first.

Getting on someone's tits is a well kent expression though, Chloe.

Amar1na Mon 03-Apr-17 21:24:43

Doodle - why would you be annoyed by someone just having basic manners? confused
What normally happens on Come Dine With Me?

SomethingBorrowed Mon 03-Apr-17 21:33:53

YABU this and doors being held...some of the few perks women get and who don't harm anybody...

doodleina Mon 03-Apr-17 21:36:21

Amar - I am just wondering why basic manners involves serving women before men when basic ettiquette stipulates all diners eat at the same time i.e. when all meals have been served.

doodleina Mon 03-Apr-17 21:38:19

Chloe - please accept my profuse apologies for the use of the word 'tits' 😒

Sylvannas Mon 03-Apr-17 21:38:59

"That gets on my breasts" has just become my new catch phrase grin
DH thinks I'm weird blush

Zhan Mon 03-Apr-17 21:44:47

I agree with OP - why do women need feeding first? It should be whoever is sat nearest and should have nothing to do with gender!
Makes me laugh when people scream for equality but are fine with women being more equal than men. Gets right on my breasts that does.

How is it equality when one gender is prioritised over the other?

Amar1na Mon 03-Apr-17 21:48:58

Well it's the same kind of thing as pouring the woman's wine first or letting her walk before you into the restaurant etc. Not a huge deal, but you would notice if things were otherwise.

FeliciaJollygoodfellow Mon 03-Apr-17 21:49:56

I think it's weird. Surely everyone would wait until everyone is served anyway before eating?

I'm with you OP. That would get right in my breasts too.

Brokejoke Mon 03-Apr-17 21:51:21

It would annoy me, but my biggest annoyance in this area is"man-sized" portions being dished up for the men and smaller for the women. My in-laws do this. I can control my own calories thank you very much.

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