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To not let neighbour use the toilet

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Whattodo23 · 03/04/2017 16:34

I regularly have a couple of kids from street playing in my garden, just say hello to parents, don't know them well at all. One child needs a wee aibu to send her home? Don't feel right letting her use toilet given she is 7, I think. Husband is not at home but still it doesn't sit right

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misscarlar · 03/04/2017 16:35

What exactly are you worried about?

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MrsMeeseeks · 03/04/2017 16:36

What are you worried will happen?

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Lilmisskittykat · 03/04/2017 16:36

She's just a small child... knowing them they leave it until desperate to ask as too busy playing.

I wouldn't see the worry personally

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user1483387154 · 03/04/2017 16:36

If you have given her permission to play at yours then she should be able to use the toilet.

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Hissy · 03/04/2017 16:37

What, out of interest, do you think could possibly happen if you let a 7yo girl in to use the loo?

Is she armed and dangerous? Does she bite? Or is she some kind of martial arts expert?

She needs a wee...

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Finola1step · 03/04/2017 16:37

Eh?

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RestlessTraveller · 03/04/2017 16:37

Why wouldn't you?

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blackteasplease · 03/04/2017 16:38

I don't think anything will go wrong if she uses your toilet.

Is it more about making sure her parents don't abdicate all responsibility for the day?

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theresamustgo · 03/04/2017 16:38

what????!!!

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badabing36 · 03/04/2017 16:38

What?

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MatildaTheCat · 03/04/2017 16:39

What difference does dh being at home make?

Let's hope you never need a favour or a parcel taken in. Being on good terms with your neighbour's is generally considered a sensible approach to life.

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CatherineHate · 03/04/2017 16:40

Let the girl go to the toilet

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TwitterQueen1 · 03/04/2017 16:40

How very peculiar! What, exactly, do you think is 'not right' about a 7 year old using your toilet?

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Whattodo23 · 03/04/2017 16:40

Just in case she said something inappropriate happened while she has a wee?

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Batteriesallgone · 03/04/2017 16:40

If you don't know them well enough to have them in the house don't let them play in your garden. Why are they playing in your garden anyway?

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TitaniasCloset · 03/04/2017 16:41

But why don't you want her to use the Loos op? Confused

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PovertyJetset · 03/04/2017 16:41

Well I think that's mean and if you're worried about some sort of sexual abuse accusation I think you need to give your head a wobble.

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RestlessTraveller · 03/04/2017 16:41

Wait, are you saying you can't trust your partner around 7 year old girls?

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WateryTart · 03/04/2017 16:42

FFS, let the poor kid have a wee and get treatment for that paranoia.

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Underbeneathsies · 03/04/2017 16:43

I think you're right, OP, let her go and use her own loo.

It's a safeguarding issue.
I once was called by one of the dcs 5yo friends to wipe her bum. Nearly threw up with the stench. She had managed to get to the loo but it was diarrhoea.
Wondered what I'd do if when/ if she mentioned to her mum I had helped her in the bathroom, and it was misconstrued somehow. I had to use baby wipes.


Far better to wash hands of all toileting issues IMO. Let her use her own.

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BabychamSocialist · 03/04/2017 16:43

Have you had some sort of head injury?

Why would you not let a child - who you actually know, seeing as she plays with your kids - use the toilet?!

Why would your head immediately jump to thinking of false accusations? That's the worrying thing, in my opinion!

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OhDearToby · 03/04/2017 16:43

No, that's crazy.

She's 7 ffs. Let her use the toilet!

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ShatnersBassoon · 03/04/2017 16:43

How daft. Let the kid use the toilet.

Husband is not at home Confused.

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Whattodo23 · 03/04/2017 16:44

Restless don't be ridiculous of course.I trust my partner. Guess I was worried about the accusation thing which collectively you think is irrational. Point taken Grin

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