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strawberrygate Mon 03-Apr-17 13:04:54

At a playgroup this morning. Came to snack time and little ones are sat down 5 to a table. I have my toddler's food in front of him; little girl next to him has a plate of food.
Little girl reaches over and takes a strawberry off my lo's plate.
I gently take it off her, saying that's not yours sweetheart, this is your plate here.
The grandma then comes over saying did the nasty lady snatch your strawberry, I'll get you another one and disappears before I have chance to react.
! minute later she appears with strawberry and gives it to the little girl saying " obviously too much trouble for her to get you one".
I asked if it was directed at me and she says " you heard, you snatched her strawberry"
I told her it was on my lo's plate etc. and she said I'm not setting a good example by taking it back and the least I could have done was fetch her another one.
So far, so entitled if not a little mad. She then leant in my face and said " you snatch food off her plate again and I'll break your fucking legs".
I told her to calm down, asked what her problem was and then gathered children and left.
I must admit I burst into tears in the car.
Was I wrong to take the frigging strawberry off her? Should I have got her another? Gut instinct is no as lots of people have strawberry allergy and anyway, toddlers need reminding not to take off others' plates

Eminado Mon 03-Apr-17 13:06:17

Wow shock

Sorry you were upset by unhinged grandma.

araiwa Mon 03-Apr-17 13:06:37

ignore the crazies

strawberrygate Mon 03-Apr-17 13:07:54

Would any normal person have taken the strawberry back off the little girl or was that mean of me? Should I have maybe told grandma and let her take it off her ( although she may have just let her keep it)

GidgetMems Mon 03-Apr-17 13:07:55

Jesus, that's a nutter nan and no mistake!!

hesterton Mon 03-Apr-17 13:08:15

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

mylongawaitedlife Mon 03-Apr-17 13:08:26

Omg flowers no the other woman was completely out of order, even before she physically threatened you. I'd be reporting her to the Police.

WateryTart Mon 03-Apr-17 13:08:54

Some toddler owners are as stupid as some dog owners sadly.

BigBrownSofa123 Mon 03-Apr-17 13:08:56

That is insane op! Do you know who she is?

Of course you weren't BU. I'd have been fine if you'd taken it away from my children as it wasn't theirs in the first place.

chocatoo Mon 03-Apr-17 13:10:33

You did the right thing. Don't let it stop you from going.

WorraLiberty Mon 03-Apr-17 13:10:37

I hope you reported her to the playgroup leader?

Bluntness100 Mon 03-Apr-17 13:11:04

To be honest, no I wouldn't have taken the strawberry off the small child I'd have got another and said to the guardian the child had a strawberry and was it ok.

However, the nan was a total and utter out of order, bang out of line, crazy bitch. Something uou clearly have to remember is a possibility before taking strwaberries off of random small kids. 😂

strawberrygate Mon 03-Apr-17 13:11:06

I vaguely know who she is. I don't know whether I can go back there next week. Trouble is we live in a small village where we're the "newcomers" I just know I'll have been slated after I left and they'll all know me as the nasty lady who snatches food off toddlers' plates

Rainydayspending Mon 03-Apr-17 13:12:15

Wow. What a crazy story. Bizarre at the time. But you'll be able to retell that one for craziest grandma stories.
I probably would have hot another strawberry for my child tbh. But only because not all playgroups get children to wash their hands before snacktime.

Fruitcocktail6 Mon 03-Apr-17 13:12:43

You did the right thing. What an absolute nutbag

strawberrygate Mon 03-Apr-17 13:12:53

I told playgroup leader that I was going early and wouldn't be able to help with tidying up as someone had just threatened to break my leg but I was just about to burst into tears so basically ran off. Feel a right nob now. She probably thinks I'm a nutter.

Trifleorbust Mon 03-Apr-17 13:13:30

'Nasty lady' who snatches food from toddlers of 'nasty lady' who makes physical threats accompanied by vile, abusive language? I know which I would rather be.


Havingahorridtime Mon 03-Apr-17 13:14:35

I'd be glad if you took it off my child because he has allergies.

Rainydayspending Mon 03-Apr-17 13:14:45

Don't take any crap. Always forget her name and refer to her at all other groups as 'the woman who threatened to break my legs after her charge stole my kids snack. But with a laugh. Definitely mention to all playleaders.
She's a bit unhinged. I bet within a month you'll hear other tales about her.

IAmTheWorwax Mon 03-Apr-17 13:14:46

I'd be shocked if everyone else thought the granny's behaviour was normal. They might nod along out of fear of being threatened too but the chances are they'll think she's a right nutter and feel bad for you.

Bettyspants Mon 03-Apr-17 13:14:48

She's a complete dick. If you know anyone in the village I'm afraid if it was me I would get in how rude and threatening she was in response to you gently taking bCk your child's food, before anyone hears her version of events!

Allthewaves Mon 03-Apr-17 13:14:49

wow just wow. Was anyone else near when this happened.

JonesyAndTheSalad Mon 03-Apr-17 13:15:49

My instinct would be to allow the child to keep the strawberry but help it to get it's own plate.

Saying that though, some kids are allergic...but I'd assume that a child with allergies would not be allowed to be unsupervised around food.

She sounds ilke a mad cow though!

I do find toddlers...other people's...weird and annoying. My own DC NEVER took other people's food but my mate's child always did it and she let him until he was WAY to old to get away with it!

FlyingElbows Mon 03-Apr-17 13:16:13

You really need to speak to playgroup leader if you can because that kind of threat (ridiculous as it is) is something they should take seriously. Nutter Nan needs a time out.

miserableandinpain Mon 03-Apr-17 13:18:24

Donf not go again. If it gets mentioned you say to whoever it is exactly what happened. 'Granny wasnt supervising her little cherub and she took your dcs strawberry. So as the sensible adult you are you explained to her darling cherub that you cant take other peoples things without asking, took it back and advised she has her own in front of her then psycho granny threatened to break your legs. You were trying to teach your dc that you dont let other people walk all iver you by taking what they want'. If she doesnt like it. Tough luck.

You did nothing wrong op.

Something similar happened to me at a playgroup. Other ladies son took my sons grape. My son took it back and she had a gi at me because she wasnt watching her son and thought mine took it. She yanked it out of my sons hand and said no very loudly. Cue tears from my son. I explained to her that if thats the way she behaves then i do not wish for my son to socialise with hers as he will learn her bad manners. Told her her son took it from mine first. But he probably learnt it from her. Everyone was looking at us. I didnt care. And no one said anything about it. I go every week.

Some people are just bullies who need to be told.

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