Bit of background: DD is 3.5 (DS is 4MO). DD is very anxious and quite particular about things. She loves to engage with adults/ older kids and hold conversations/ have imaginary play/ etc. But I'm aware of her needing to socialise with her own age group too.
BUT, after today's play date I just need to vent! I really think my DF is taking the p**s. Several play dates with her and her C1 (4) and C2 (2) a Tazmanian devil of a child have been endured recently, and after each one I get more and more angry and vow never to do it again!
Tell me if IABU, but as soon as they get in the front door, the kids are straight into DD's little playroom and start ransacking the place. I'm no neat freak, but this takes 'mess' to a whole new level! C2's idea of play is to get any basket/ bag/ tin/ receptacle of any kind and immediately empty the contents onto the floor regardless of whether breakable or not. C1 (permanently snotty) is not much better. And of course any breakages break DD's little heart, in fact so does the mess which we spend hours putting back together after they've gone.
Today DF asked to come round for a 'coffee and catch-up' which sounded appealing and it was lovely weather, so I vowed to keep them all contained in the garden in order to have said catch up and for the kids to play in the garden. This was instantly shattered when C1 came straight through the garden and into the house to do her usual.
C2 had done a poo in her nappy and when I pointed this out. DF preceded to take her pooey nappy off and leave her pooey bottom out, so I supplied some wipes and a clean nappy but she said she'd keep her nappy off coz her bum looked sore. Low and behold the wee came all over some toys which DF had gone inside to get with her (despite the door being closed and me asking for us all to stay outside), but instead of putting the nappy on, DF waited until wee no.2 occurred.
DD was poorly yest, so I told DF after an hour or so that we'd like to get DD fed and in bed early (hint hint). DF then asked if she could help herself to another cup of tea - clearly content that her DCs were entertained and she was well watered.
DS (who incidentally is DF's godson, who she completely ignored) was getting tired so they finally got the hint and left. Leaving us shattered, annoyed and in a complete mess with two knackered and hungry kids (one still quite a new baby).
DF is totally different when she doesn't have the LOs-in-tow, she's lovely and thoughtful, and great with DS. It's such a shame but I just feel I can't have them round coz it's too upsetting for DD (and me!) ☹️ argghhhhhhh!!
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AIBU?
To not want to see DF's kids ever again?!
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Glutenfreediddleydee · 02/04/2017 20:12
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