So many threads seem to descend into deriding men for not taking equal responsibility for childcare / housework / not pulling their weight around the home etc.
There are jobs around my home that I seriously do not want to do like putting the bins out, gardening and home maintenance. I don't want to help maintain our (big) garden other than potter about or drink wine while I admire it. I can cut grass but not as good as he can.
He cleans, kitchen and bathrooms, vacuums, but never seems to dust?? He changes the beds and does his own washing. But I do the the majority of banking & finance, and virtually all of the meal planning and cooking, because I'm better at that.
And although he plays with and entertains the grandchildren I feed them, put them to bed etc when they are here.
If he is spending the weekend decorating then I will do his washing and clean the house and not expect him to do any housework that weekend. Because I would rather do that than paint.
I really moan at him if he forgets to put the bins out 'cos he knows I hate doing it. And a couple of times I just haven't done it. Imagine if I posted on here that my OH had moaned at me because I hadn't done some household chore??
AIBU to think that shared responsibility does not mean that both the man and the woman have to do everything and a compromise is good enough?
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Is it OK for me to say I'm not doing that task, but not OK for my OH to say it?
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Nanna50 · 02/04/2017 15:38
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