My OH and I are in the midst of lots of conversations about when / if to start trying for a baby. We have a few topics that we always end up coming back to, namely money (we've just taken on a mortgage which is really stretching our finances) and my health (I have CFS and am permanently exhausted and had to give up my job about a year ago), which are big issues on their own. The other thing which I keep coming back to, but don't really know how to work around, is that I'm not all that sure that I like children! I really do think that I'd like our child (typical narcissist eh?) and love the thought of building a family with my lovely OH, but then I'll spend time with friends children and I find them exhausting and not easy to connect with. I certainly don't get broody whenever I see a baby! I'm approaching mid 30s though, so do feel like I need to make a decision soon, before it's made for me by my body.
I'm naturally an over thinker and hugely cautious, so I think I need a bit of outside advice to help get me out of my own cycles of thinking on this and actually make a decision!
So, AIBU to ask if you actually all liked children before you had your own? Or did you have faith that you would like your own, even if you weren't enamoured with children generally? If you didn't like other people's, did you then go on to like your own?
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Sweetpea302 · 02/04/2017 08:50
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