Ok, so first off namechanged recently...blah blah blah.
Second I'm putting this in AIBU to a)get honest opinions and b)I want the traffic!
Fuck fucking fuck sake.
My DP of 8 years, father to our 4 yr old DS, had a heart attack on Sunday, aged just 46years.
This was completely unexpected, he was otherwise relatively fit and healthy, lots of physical activity etc.
We smoke, we drink.......rather, we DID smoke and drink, we both have quit, obviously!
He came home yesterday, and rather than the happy reunion/ homecoming I thought it would be, all we have done is row!
It started with him getting the arse because I'd bought some fags off a mate while he was in hospital (I was stressed and we both smoked at that point anyway!), now he's really angry at me because I was trying to make light of the fact that his quite difficult Mum is coming on Sunday, and bringing his horribly snobby Aunt Linda* and we are a massively unconventional family, homeschool, lax on housekeeping (it's clean but messy IYSWIM) and I am v unconventional lookwise- think GI Jane but a viking version. (Aunt Linda has never met me btw) I don't get why me making a joke of it (to try and cheer him up!) has pissed him off so much.
Look I get it, it's not nice to think people have carried on life without you while in hospital, I was in for months when pg with DS, I had severe HG, and DP still carried on going to the pub/ smoking etc.
I am trying so, so hard to quit smoking with him, do all the right things, but it feels like everything I have done since he got back has been wrong.
So, I think it's just the quitting smoking/ being stressed/ being ill thing, and he is taking it out me, but am I being massively out of order or have I fucked up in some way?
Or is it just to be expected sniping cos we're both quitting the fags etc?
What can I do to not end up in another row? Or will everything end in a row until the nicotine addiction wears off??
Should add that we are both vaping, and he has never ever been in any way abusive, and he had a sort of "mid life crisis" anyway recently when he had to get reading glasses!
Help!
How do I sort this??
*name has been changed to protect the terminally horrible
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This is all so messed up and weird, HELP ME MN!!
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LanaKanesLeftNippleTassle · 30/03/2017 20:21
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