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To ask if you would think this woman is partly to blame for what happened to her? (Might be triggering for some people)

273 replies

NervousNancy · 29/03/2017 17:41

This has being playing on my mind all day and I just need to get this out so please bear with me and try not to be too harsh.

A young woman goes out clubbing one night with her friends. She dresses up for her night out - skimpy dress, does her makeup, puts on some high heeled shoes, etc. She ends up getting very drunk and ends up getting separated from her friends.

So she is alone, very drunk and clearly not thinking straight. She decides to walk home alone. Unfortunately on her way home she ends up being raped.

Would you say that she is partly responsible for what happened to her and accept some of the blame?

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isupposeitsverynice · 29/03/2017 17:42

Nope. Not to blame at all. All responsibility lies squarely with the rapist.

NervousNancy · 29/03/2017 17:43

Meant to say should she accept some of the blame

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Stickerrocks · 29/03/2017 17:43

The only person to blame is the rapist who took advantage of her. No ifs, no buts.

DaisyBlameless · 29/03/2017 17:43

Of course not, not one person here would think she is in any way responsible.

Was it you? Flowers

TheWhiteRoseOfYork · 29/03/2017 17:43

No.The rapist is to blame.

Shoxfordian · 29/03/2017 17:43

Absolutely no

The only person to blame is the rapist

AcidBird · 29/03/2017 17:44

No I wouldn't. The only person to blame for any rape is the rapist.

Destinysdaughter · 29/03/2017 17:44

NO

malibuandlemonade · 29/03/2017 17:44

No. She is definitely not "partly responsible". How ridiculous Angry

NervousNancy · 29/03/2017 17:45

But if she wasn't drunk and decided to walk home alone it wouldn't have happened. Nobody forced her to get drunk or walk home alone. Those were all her decisions.

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TheClacksAreDown · 29/03/2017 17:45

Absolutely not. The rapist is 100 percent to blame.

sonyaya · 29/03/2017 17:45

Anyone who thinks she is remotely to blame is VVVVVU. Someone who is raped is NEVER to blame to any extent at all.

EmpireLine · 29/03/2017 17:45

What? No of course not. Rapist to blame 109%

Destinysdaughter · 29/03/2017 17:45

Why are you asking this OP?

HarperValleyHypocrite · 29/03/2017 17:46

The only person at fault is the rapist. Anyone who thinks differently is a vile rape apologist and past of the massive problem of rape culture imo.

sonyaya · 29/03/2017 17:46

But if she wasn't drunk and decided to walk home alone it wouldn't have happened. Nobody forced her to get drunk or walk home alone. Those were all her decisions.

And all decisions she is entitled to make without being raped.

UterusUterusGhali · 29/03/2017 17:46

No.
Of course not.

If I own a nice laptop, am I partly responsible for getting burgled? Hmm

kittybiscuits · 29/03/2017 17:46

This is a rapist problem. Not a woman got drunk problem.

TheLambShankRedemption · 29/03/2017 17:46

No blame.

She could have been wearing trousers and still got raped.
She could have been sober and still got raped.

The person to blame for a rape is the rapist.

GreatFuckability · 29/03/2017 17:47

not in any way, shape or form is she to blame. it doesn't matter if she was lying in the street with a sign saying 'please rape me' it still isn't her fault.

Destinysdaughter · 29/03/2017 17:47

Fucking sick of these victim blaming threads now.Angry

NervousNancy · 29/03/2017 17:47

I'm asking because I've been thinking about this all day. Those judges comments and the victims comments have made me think about this again.

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y0rkier0se · 29/03/2017 17:47

If she got drunk and walked home alone, without the rapist being there, she'd have been absolutely fine. It's a sad existence when women can't walk around the streets without being raped. It is SOLELY the rapist's responsibility.

zen1 · 29/03/2017 17:47

The woman is in no way to blame - she is not responsible for the actions of the rapist.

RhiWrites · 29/03/2017 17:48

Nice victim blaming, OP. Is it still her fault if she gets myrdered?

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