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To ask if you would think this woman is partly to blame for what happened to her? (Might be triggering for some people)

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NervousNancy Wed 29-Mar-17 17:41:44

This has being playing on my mind all day and I just need to get this out so please bear with me and try not to be too harsh.

A young woman goes out clubbing one night with her friends. She dresses up for her night out - skimpy dress, does her makeup, puts on some high heeled shoes, etc. She ends up getting very drunk and ends up getting separated from her friends.

So she is alone, very drunk and clearly not thinking straight. She decides to walk home alone. Unfortunately on her way home she ends up being raped.

Would you say that she is partly responsible for what happened to her and accept some of the blame?

isupposeitsverynice Wed 29-Mar-17 17:42:49

Nope. Not to blame at all. All responsibility lies squarely with the rapist.

NervousNancy Wed 29-Mar-17 17:43:05

Meant to say should she accept some of the blame

Stickerrocks Wed 29-Mar-17 17:43:09

The only person to blame is the rapist who took advantage of her. No ifs, no buts.

DaisyBlameless Wed 29-Mar-17 17:43:15

Of course not, not one person here would think she is in any way responsible.

Was it you? flowers

TheWhiteRoseOfYork Wed 29-Mar-17 17:43:28

No.The rapist is to blame.

Shoxfordian Wed 29-Mar-17 17:43:54

Absolutely no

The only person to blame is the rapist

AcidBird Wed 29-Mar-17 17:44:16

No I wouldn't. The only person to blame for any rape is the rapist.

Destinysdaughter Wed 29-Mar-17 17:44:38

NO

malibuandlemonade Wed 29-Mar-17 17:44:47

No. She is definitely not "partly responsible". How ridiculous angry

NervousNancy Wed 29-Mar-17 17:45:24

But if she wasn't drunk and decided to walk home alone it wouldn't have happened. Nobody forced her to get drunk or walk home alone. Those were all her decisions.

TheClacksAreDown Wed 29-Mar-17 17:45:36

Absolutely not. The rapist is 100 percent to blame.

sonyaya Wed 29-Mar-17 17:45:37

Anyone who thinks she is remotely to blame is VVVVVU. Someone who is raped is NEVER to blame to any extent at all.

EmpireLine Wed 29-Mar-17 17:45:41

What? No of course not. Rapist to blame 109%

Destinysdaughter Wed 29-Mar-17 17:45:51

Why are you asking this OP?

HarperValleyHypocrite Wed 29-Mar-17 17:46:06

The only person at fault is the rapist. Anyone who thinks differently is a vile rape apologist and past of the massive problem of rape culture imo.

sonyaya Wed 29-Mar-17 17:46:27

But if she wasn't drunk and decided to walk home alone it wouldn't have happened. Nobody forced her to get drunk or walk home alone. Those were all her decisions.

And all decisions she is entitled to make without being raped.

UterusUterusGhali Wed 29-Mar-17 17:46:35

No.
Of course not.

If I own a nice laptop, am I partly responsible for getting burgled? hmm

kittybiscuits Wed 29-Mar-17 17:46:40

This is a rapist problem. Not a woman got drunk problem.

TheLambShankRedemption Wed 29-Mar-17 17:46:55

No blame.

She could have been wearing trousers and still got raped.
She could have been sober and still got raped.

The person to blame for a rape is the rapist.

GreatFuckability Wed 29-Mar-17 17:47:00

not in any way, shape or form is she to blame. it doesn't matter if she was lying in the street with a sign saying 'please rape me' it still isn't her fault.

Destinysdaughter Wed 29-Mar-17 17:47:09

Fucking sick of these victim blaming threads now.angry

NervousNancy Wed 29-Mar-17 17:47:16

I'm asking because I've been thinking about this all day. Those judges comments and the victims comments have made me think about this again.

y0rkier0se Wed 29-Mar-17 17:47:17

If she got drunk and walked home alone, without the rapist being there, she'd have been absolutely fine. It's a sad existence when women can't walk around the streets without being raped. It is SOLELY the rapist's responsibility.

zen1 Wed 29-Mar-17 17:47:54

The woman is in no way to blame - she is not responsible for the actions of the rapist.

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