Inappropriate songs?(16 Posts)
DSs are 12 and 8. The 12 yo has recently become obsessed with a singer called Jon Belloin (imho the music is bloody awful, not a clue what he sees in it). The songs do often include swear words but DS is 12 and all songs do these days.
Naturally, his little brother has started copying his music taste and has become obsessed with him too. That would be fine if the two lines he kept singing weren’t “you’re the reason I’m alone and masturbate” and “last night I woke the fuck up”. I’ve managed to make him realise that children shouldn’t be saying “fuck” and he now sings “last night I woke the heck up”. But he cant seem to get his head around the other line… I’ve told him that it’s inappropriate and he shouldn’t sing it and have taken away his Ipad when he does but he seems to have really connected to that line.
It became worse when my brother was looking after him yesterday and when I picked him up he was laughing and told me DS2 had been singing song and that line. It’s my little brother so I know he wouldn’t care about what DS2 says but what if it were another adult? Even a teacher, maybe?
He doesn’t know what it means and can’t get his get his head round why he can’t say it. DS1 finding the whole thing hilarious isn’t helping either.
Am I overeacting? Or maybe under reacting?
I've never heard of Jon Belloin (sounds like I've not missed much) but I wouldn't be impressed either with that. As a teen I thought I was daring listening to Alanis Morrissette (are you thinking of me when you fuck her) but wouldn't have had the nerve to play that in front of my mum let alone sing along. I would react the same as you and to be honest would ask your oldest son not to play that song around his brother any more, but maybe the damage is done...
Why are you letting either of them listen to it? And no, not all songs these days contain swearing.
Porpoiselife DS1 is 12yo, i'd find it a little weird if he didnt swear/listen to songs with swear words in. He's in year 8, he's not a baby anymore. And it was an exaduratin...
My DD is 12 and none of her friends sing song with swear words in them....especially not in front of younger children! She's friends with both boys and girls.
It sounds like you need to step up your game OP in terms of boundaries.
My DD likes watching RuPaul's Drag race and the people on that swear a but but she'd never repeat them!
Music is so shite these days kids think that anyone who swears while they warble are "hip" "cool" " whatever"
Shit. So did I 25 years ago to the wonderstuff.
Id rather a few fucks than the misogynistic bullshit crap some "artists" spout.
I think that the Little Mx sing 'shout out to my ex' is inappropriate for little girls to be singing and I'm very glad my 7 yr old doesn't yet understand the meaning! I mean, I know there's no swearing, but it's still a bit inappropriate give their fan base, I reckon!!
12 and 8 is a young in my mind for explicit songs or those with vulgar language.
mine are much older so i'm not familiar with what is out there for music.
i wish i could remember the name of a song my daughter has set as her "wake up alarm" it was full of sexual innuendos but catchy tune!!
my youngest developed a taste for a group called the bone thugs...they did a remake of a few well knows tunes and he went pale the first time i sung along.
Swear jar! Every time he says it he needs to pay up. Or be honest with him and explain to him what it means and why it's not appropriate, within reason of course because of his age. I was definitely listing to music with explicitly language when I was 12, but I have a sister who was 6 years older that I spent a lot of time with then. There was this song with the lyrics "Come to me.
The only broken-hearted loser you'll ever need,
or I'll be left alone forever with my magazines" and I had absolutely no idea at all that they were singing about sex and masterbation.
I was a bit taken aback by hearing Shaggy's 'it wasn't me' on the radio the other day
And tangfastic, it's so catchy! I can still hear it now...
Dixie I agree with that little mix song my dd who's nearly five loves the song but luckily can't quite catch what they are saying! I normally turn the radio over when it comes on and say it's just finished !
My kids LOVE Ed Sheeran.... they are singing ... he's got his arsehole bleached!....
it's a song... as long as they aren't using the words IRL!
I have a 13 and 14 year old, if they listen to songs with swearing in it certainly isn't done in the house where their younger siblings can hear it.
I am under no illusion they know and probably use swear words but they have more respect than to play and sing explicit songs at home. If they were consistently playing something inappropriate in front of their younger siblings, to the point they were learning the lyrics they'd no longer have access to their music players!
Do you think the 8 year old is mature enough to understand an age appropriate explanation of what masturbation is? Dd knew what it meant at that age ( from a book at school), friends ds of same age knew it was "people touching themselves down there" kind of way, but I know chatting from some of the mums that their DC didn't know what sex was and they'd feel its too young and would pull them out of any discussions at school around it.
My dd is 12 now and likes a lot if artists I haven't heard of, I make an effort to listen to their most popular tracks or google the lyrics and while there's some occasional swearing, there's plenty of content available that doesn't have this in. I don't mind dd hearing swearing, she never plays songs with swearing in around me because she feels awkward and kniws that like any other thing she's allowed to do because she older and mature, she's not to do, listen, watch around younger DC in the family. If she played a 12 movie around a young child, she'd no longer be allowed to watch 12 movies. Same with music, so I think I'd have stopped the 12 year old being allowed to access to it if he's let his younger sibling listen too
You mention the younger one having an iPad, is he googling the music himself after being told he's not allowed? If so I wouldn't let him on it at all unless supervised at all as my concern with the younger one would be, he's smart enough to find the stuff he wants, so he'd be smart enough to google words he doesn't understand like "masturbation" and I'd much rather he have the explanation of what it means from me than from some awful porn site should he try to find out its meaning.
I think it's time you actually explain too your 8 yo, what masturbate means - he might understand why its not always an appropriate time too sing that lyric.
Me and my DH was only discussing the other day what has happened to music and how crude some of the lyrics and videos are. ( given the age of fan bases for the bands ) And we are only in our 20's
Jason Derulo - Swalla
Is one at the minute that's horrendous, the video is on a par with the song.
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