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Aibu to get DS skin tag removed?

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Mtierney96 Tue 28-Mar-17 20:48:40

My DS is nearly 3 and has a skin tag on his ear (see pic) it doesnt bother him or anyone really but im so aware of how cruel kids can be and want it to be removed before school. (My mum had the same skin tag in the same place and is pretty traumatised by the bullying she recieved about it at school)
The removal procedure is deemed as cosmetic by the NHS so i would be paying for it privately.

Im just worried that IABU and i should be setting an example that physical features dont matter?

DaisyBlameless Tue 28-Mar-17 20:50:32

I would do it myself, with a bit of cotton. I did DSs and it fell off after 2 days.

Crispmonster1 Tue 28-Mar-17 20:51:23

Do it. It's minor.

highinthesky Tue 28-Mar-17 20:54:51

Have you had a GP check it? I'm a bit surprised by the size and location, as it's not usually subject to friction (unless DS sleeps on that side, of course). If it's deemed benign then I agree a DIY job will spell an end to it.

gamerchick Tue 28-Mar-17 20:58:02

I just do it myself, bit of thread, splodge of germoline and cover with a plaster. Check every day to make sure it's dying, another splodge of germoline and plaster and the bairn picks it off when it goes crusty. Usually when they get a bit of a neck and it's irritating him.

Mtierney96 Tue 28-Mar-17 20:58:38

He's had it since birth and had it checked during the check they do before discharging you. Ive took it to the gp since then and they have said its minor.

Would a cotton one do one this big? Would it hurt him at all
Will cost upwards of 80 quid to have it done as a private outpatient

ThoraGruntwhistle Tue 28-Mar-17 21:00:32

Pay the money and get it done. I don't think I'd attempt home surgery on one that big. I've removed little ones from my armpits and neck but none that visible.

gamerchick Tue 28-Mar-17 21:02:13

But either way don't worry about whatever message you're concerned it's sending. Just get the bugger took off, it would probably bleed like a bastard if it gets caught on something.

sonjadog Tue 28-Mar-17 21:07:05

I would go and get it done professionally. It looks quite big. I wouldn´t worry about the message. He´s so young that he is unlikely to remember it and it isn´t like you are going to be making lots of other cosmetic changes to his appearance (I assume).

staghunter Tue 28-Mar-17 21:07:45

My ds had very similar growth, in the same place. I think it is slightly more substantial than a usual skin tag and cotton would not work.

Ds had his tonsils out at 3 and I asked them to remove it at the same time which the surgeon did. It needed stitches.
Not very helpful advice though! But I am still pleased with the multi tasking a few years on!

Mallowmarshmallow Tue 28-Mar-17 21:09:33

This is a pre-auricular tag.
My son had the same, we had it removed when he was about nine months old on the NHS. It wasn't at all traumatic, it was very, very quick and he has a tiny, light scar there now.

I had the same dilemma about whether he would one day feel as though he hadn't been perfect with it, whether I should leave it until he was old enough to drive etc but my DH, DM and everyone else in the family were insistent that he should have it done and it would be unkind to leave him open to bullying.

I'm still not so sure...

Mtierney96 Tue 28-Mar-17 21:09:42

Yes think ill just take him
I would be a bit scared cos its bigger than any ive ever seen.
And yeah definitley wont be having any other cosmetic procedures hahahaha
Thanks for the advice

Rossigigi Tue 28-Mar-17 21:10:19

Get it removed but by a professional

Mtierney96 Tue 28-Mar-17 21:11:49

Thanks Mallow noones ever given me a proper name before. Im quite young (had him when i was 17) so often seem to get fobbed off and hate to seem pushy with doctors etc.
I feel exactly the same as you but DP and all other family think it needs to go now. Feel so conflicted about it!

Trb17 Tue 28-Mar-17 21:14:22

I would definitely get it removed as kids at school will target him. It shouldn't happen but it will, so best sorted now. For one that big I'd get the professionals in.

BenLinusatemyhomework Tue 28-Mar-17 21:14:50

One of my DS's had the same. It's not quite the same as a skin tag though as it's an additional growth from the ear nub - I can't remember the exact details now, sorry.

It's not that uncommon and the hospital took it off when he was a week old. They did it with a sort of plastic staple thing that cut the blood supply, I didn't pay to have it done.

I would go to the GP and ask what the treatment would be for one that size. If they would still just restrict the blood supply, you could do that yourself with some thin cotton.

sonjadog Tue 28-Mar-17 21:16:15

I can understand that you are conflicted and I think it is right that you are mulling it over, but I think it is a fair point that he might be bullied over it, or at the very least it might cause unwanted attention and make him self-conscious. The procedure to get rid of it is very small, and really don´t think it will make or break the values you want him to grow up with. I doubt he´ll come to you as an adult man and say that he wished you had left he skin tag on his ear!

BluebellsareBlue Tue 28-Mar-17 21:22:07

DS, now 13, had similar and they were going to remove it when he was a week or so old however there were two and one had cartilage in it so we had to wait until he was over one for a GA. I didn't think twice about getting it done.

Koala101 Wed 29-Mar-17 14:32:42

Studies have shown general anaesthetics in animal models can affect brain development. Therefore it is recommended that young children avoid unnecessary General anaesthetics.

xStefx Wed 29-Mar-17 14:34:33

I would get it removed, but yes by a professional

PupPupBoogie Wed 29-Mar-17 14:35:36

Our son had something similar removed. I wouldn't recommend diy as everything removed by medical professionals is sent of for testing. In our case we were called back in and he is now under oncology for 5 years to keep an eye on it and had to have further scans and lymph nodes removed. We would never have known if we had tried to fix it ourselves

LadyPW Wed 29-Mar-17 14:38:33

Get it done, and properly.

Mallowmarshmallow Wed 29-Mar-17 15:24:03

Oh, and my son didn't have a GA, they were happy to do it with me holding him and a local anaesthetic and it was over very quickly.

PebbleInTheMoonlight Wed 29-Mar-17 16:10:18

That's helpful Koala101 especially as no doctor would subject a child to GA unless necessary. Even if OP gets a doctor to remove this it'll only be a local anaesthetic!

OP I have skin tags, I honestly wouldn't have cared if my parents had removed them - it wouldn't have changed who I am. If my child had one that prominent by their ear I'd have it removed.

I'd be less concerned with bullying and more concerned about it accidentally being caught on something when playing, doing sports, getting changed in a rush (zips!) and there being pain instead of a calmer removal.

PebbleInTheMoonlight Wed 29-Mar-17 16:12:16

And yes I'm speaking with experience - one of mine came off during a sport session where someone's watch caught the tag at the back of my neck.

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