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To genuinely believe people are much more ruder and 'entitled' these days?

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Snugglepalace Tue 28-Mar-17 11:41:35

I may be heading down avenue 'grump old git' these days but people really piss me off recently.
For example, Dh works on the roads and they regularly get abuse from the general public, especially when it come to road closures.
Last week Dh and work mates were working on a road closure when a woman drives up to them demanding that they let her through, 'but the road is closed it says so on the board in front of you!' says Dh. 'No, no that doesn't apply to me I live on this road!' There are no houses on this road, it's a country lane used as a cut through for many.
Anyhow, Dh insists she can not get through, she argues with him, turns her steering wheel and drives right passed into road closure.
Thing is, the reason the road is closed is due to the fact there is a sodding great big hole in road which she proceeds to drive straight into getting car stuck in process grin
Spends the next 4 hours sulking on grass verge waiting for recovery truck!
Wtf is wrong with folk?

bignamechangeroonie Tue 28-Mar-17 11:44:37

I'd laugh all day long if I was your dh. Must have been hilarious.

Ethylred Tue 28-Mar-17 11:44:44

But this is hilarious! Be glad that you have a story to share.

(No chance of a car-in-hole photo, is there?)

derxa Tue 28-Mar-17 11:45:05

There is a difference between rude and entitled and idiot in this case.

WatchingFromTheWings Tue 28-Mar-17 11:46:38

That's hysterical!! 😆

EatDessertFirst Tue 28-Mar-17 11:48:01

I agree YANBU. It amazing how people think they can get what they want just by speaking loudly or rudely. 'Insisting' will get you nowhere half the time. When I worked front-line retail I was just extra nice to such people. They make themselves look like idiots then.

CommonSenseIsNotAllThatCommon Tue 28-Mar-17 11:48:37

Well I'll join you in the grumpy pants club. I was on the till in work yesterday and a woman put her child on the conveyor belt because he wanted to. I stopped it and told her to take him off. She argued that l was ruining his fun.
She ended up being escorted out.

HecateAntaia Tue 28-Mar-17 11:50:15

hillarious.

I also would have laughed myself silly if I were your husband!

Right in her face.

And pointed at her while doing it.

but to answer your q - I think that there have always been unreasonable, entitled people but they were held back by a society that did not pander to it.

That's the difference.

Fewer people stand up and say no. Or sod off. Or in fact draw any line in the sand.

Unreasonable people get pandered to because nobody wants to stand up for themselves.

About 3/4 of the AIBUs on here would be solved if the person said actually, no, that's not going to happen, you are taking the piss.

So what we need to address is why so many people bend over and take it up the arse, and pay for the lube out of their own pocket, and say thank you, instead of being assertive.

CommonSenseIsNotAllThatCommon Tue 28-Mar-17 11:53:55

Hecate I think it an almost need to appear polite and not pushy.

Happyandhungry Tue 28-Mar-17 11:54:55

I find people very entitled these days but i find it worse on the pavements than on the roads. I hate to say it but its generally rich/posh entitled people or (again hate to say it!) Older/elderly people. I am a very respectful person I will move out of the way to let people pass etc, i will always say thank you if someone holds a door for me etc..i find that the above groups of people will walk 3 abreast down the pavement and expect you to just work around them, worse still they act like you're not there, even with a pram!! I am currently 38 weeks pregnant and was in a very expensive lingerie shop the other day for a fitting. I had to move a lady's coat who had "claimed" one of the 3 only seats in the shop whilst she had a fitting, even though she was off in a changing room somewhere so did not need the seat at all. I then was trying to maneuvere by big belly around the shop but another lady's husband kept being in the way and instead of moving out the way or saying "oh sorry" etc or smiling about it he just ignored me so i kept saying "excuse me" until in the end i said "sorry but i do need to get to these bras to look is there any chance you could move please?" So irritating and entitled because he clearly had a lot of money and thought I was just some annoying peasant pregnant lady hmm

ItchyFoot Tue 28-Mar-17 11:58:04

I was paying for my shopping at the local coop when I saw a woman and what I assume was her granddaughter (she was about 4) come in the shop. The kid was riding a massive tricycle! The woman didn't seem at all bothered that she was getting in people's way and almost running them over!

RiversrunWoodville Tue 28-Mar-17 12:08:58

Yes I agree there's definitely more rude and entitled behaviour around (although that one is hilarious grin ). We live at the bottom of a lane which comes off a dual carriageway, when I was 38 weeks pregnant with dd2 DH was coming home and said that he turned down a lane with a jogger on footpath about 100 yards away from lane entrance. (Lane is marked just like a side road)Once on lane entrance DH was blocked by a large lorry and had to wait there was plenty of room for jogger to pass safely but instead he came yelled at DH and spat on the car because he'd have had to go round ruining the line therefore the time of his run and DH should have waited in the road apparently hmm

mrsmortis Tue 28-Mar-17 12:11:29

My uncle used to live around the corner from a ford that was only passable in a four wheel drive farm vehicle or a landrover. In the summer season he used to earn a lot of money hauling people out of there who decided that the sign didn't apply to them.

sobeyondthehills Tue 28-Mar-17 12:13:14

Not sure if it comes under the same thing, but where we live there are very narrow pavements, you can get one person down them, so if you see someone coming one of you has to step to one side, normally its me. In the 9 months I have been doing this route, I can count on the fingers of one hand how many people have said thank you.

randomer Tue 28-Mar-17 12:14:26

hilarious. Made my day.

LoriD Tue 28-Mar-17 12:15:55

I was in b&q earlier and I approached he checkout at the same time as an elderly couple. I only had one small product whereas they had loads of flowers pots etc. But seeing as they were elderly I give them the first chance to checkout ( thinking perhaps they would see I've only one thing and wave me ahead), but not they proceeded to the checkout without even a smile or thanks and took ages.

So they thought oh we are elderly so I can be rude and that's fine hmm

LouKout Tue 28-Mar-17 12:17:53

Agreed ..my disabled daughter was almost at a swing at weekend..she loves swings..it's obvious she can't run like other kids.

A girl closely followed by her mum overtook her at last minute and took the swing then they stayed on it for ages while my DD stood crying. This happens nearly every time we are at park.

Also we can rarely get a disabled space at beach as people park in them with no badge to go to gym every evening.

Then theres buggy users refusing to fold.

Quite universal really.

SantasLittleMonkeyButler Tue 28-Mar-17 12:21:11

Polite but firm has always been my preferred approach. No need to be a pushover and no need to be rude & act as though you're entitled to things you are not.

It must be a long, aggressive life for some people. I just can't imagine why some folk find the need to argue every little situation just for the sake of it. It must be exhausting confused. Not important things, where you are actually in the right (like the thread about the gates on the drive), but stupid little things where you are, in fact, just being a twat (like the woman I witnessed swearing at a sandwich shop assistant at the weekend because her idea of "not much mayo" was different to the poor woman who made the thing. Apparently, "not much mayo" actually means "lots of mayo".) Why do people do it? Is it some sort of power trip?

I'd have laughed at the car driver in the OP I'm afraid. What a prize pudding grin.

Sodomeyes Tue 28-Mar-17 12:23:01

but its generally rich/posh entitled people

Yes, yes, yes.

I work at a University where the vast majority of our students are posh. For example, this year I taught a group of 54 students, four of whom had some kind of aristocratic title.

Anyhow, our students never ever ever move out the way when walking down the road three abreast. They're not rude, just completely oblivious and entitled. I also don't move. I either smack straight into them or stand stock still so they have to move around me with a very pointed "Thank you" as they toddle off.

Cunts.

Happyandhungry Tue 28-Mar-17 12:23:47

Aww LouKout thats awful!! If i had seen that I would have said to the other mum ok your child has had 15 minutes now let the other girl have a go. Hopefully it would shame her some random person saying it rather than you as the mum. Awful. Even if your daughter wasn't disabled and therefore couldn't run there first then i would still say something as swing hogging is not on!

SantasLittleMonkeyButler Tue 28-Mar-17 12:24:36

Agreed ..my disabled daughter was almost at a swing at weekend..she loves swings..it's obvious she can't run like other kids.

A girl closely followed by her mum overtook her at last minute and took the swing then they stayed on it for ages while my DD stood crying. This happens nearly every time we are at park.

That's awful! I can't believe that;

a) adults can act like that .
b) adults want to teach their children to be that bloody selfish.

FWIW, I would have told my DD to wait while your DD had her turn. But then again, she'd not the type to rush a swing that somebody else is about to get on anyway!

neverthetwainshallmeet Tue 28-Mar-17 12:26:38

Bahahaha!!! Brilliant story OP, that's pleased me. I hate behaviour like that.

To answer your question yes, I do think there's more of it about, particularly on the interweb!

neverthetwainshallmeet Tue 28-Mar-17 12:27:32

That's awful LouKout

Freshprincess Tue 28-Mar-17 12:27:58

LOukat - that's terrible. Parents allowing kids to hog stuff at the park are the pits. And are Usually the ones who complain loudly if yours don't jump off the minute they arrive.
I overhead a woman in a restaurant having an almighty kick off about having to wait 20 mins for a table. She didn't want to wait and thought she should go ahead of everyone else because 'those people don't mind' (she hadn't asked them!)

And I don't know whether it's worse than years gone by or if I'm turning into a grumpy old woman.

WinterWander Tue 28-Mar-17 12:37:20

I blame big businesses. They are so worried about profit and a bad publicity that they bend over backwards to apologise and offer compensation for any accident/incident that happens (even if the customer is the one at fault). This has then spread to people expecting that same treatment everywhere. Then that attitude gets passed onto their children.

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